So in my head all 3 year old have tantrums and can switch from lovely and sweet to absolute monsters......but I've recently been told that how my son behaves isn't normal by a friend who works in a nursery.
Most of the time, he is sweet and kind and loving. But recently he started acting out a lot and it usually comes from nowhere.
For example he went to bed happily a few nights ago, telling me and his dad how much he loved is. Within 5 minutes he's up screaming the place down, hitting us, stamping feet. Screaming to the point of hurting his throat. It came completely from nowhere and nothing calms him down. He doesn't want to be cuddled, he won't stop screaming so we can't talk to him to try to get him to calm down
My friend witnessed a meltdown last week when my son didn't want lunch and screamed solidly for an hour. He goes from a want a cuddle to dont touch me, I want my lunch to I'm not eating lunch, I want to cuddle my teddy to throwing the teddy across the room. It's not just being upset or a huff, it's like his whole personality changes and I don't even recognize him.
My friend works with children who are 3/4 and has told me that what she witnessed isn't a normal tantrum from a 3 year old and that if my son behaves like this at preschool that they will refer me for parenting classes.
I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. He has two parents and a little sister who adore him, he has grandparents and friends who love being with him. In my mind he had a nice life and parents who are doing their best to raise a happy well rounded child and while I accept that tantrums are normal, I don't feel myself that his meltdowns can possibly be normal.
Has anyone else experienced this? Does anyone know what I can do to help him? Seeing him so worked up is heartbreaking and very stressful