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Normally content sleeper now refusing to sleep without me during the day. what would you do?

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Wills · 04/06/2007 10:46

My ds (1 yr two weeks) will normally go back to sleep somewhere between 9.30 and 10.30 in the morning for 2 to 3 hours. The routine is come in from dropping off his two sisters, have some milk, into bed, thumb in mouth, sleep. During half term this has gone somewhat pearshaped and over the weekend he's gone ballistic when I try to put him down for his daytime nap. Three days ago I resorted to curling up with him to get him off and guess what.... that's now the only way I can get him to sleep. Normally if he cries it means he's wet, or hungry or thirsty or simply not sleepy yet and I get him up and either resolve the issue or wait until he is tired. But I know he's tired, not hungry/wet or thirsty! Its got to the point where he's simply wants me. With a 3 year old running around that's simply not always possible for me to disappear for 30 minutes simply to settle him down. At the same time I'm concerned that leaving him to cry will make this a battle ground that then moves to the night time sleep as well.

So what are your thoughts?

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hbbell · 04/06/2007 11:57

What routine do you use at night for the bed time sleep? Becouse if you are using the same method with no probs at night try the day sleep just 15 mins later than normal to ensure ds is extra tired. say time for your sleep now, and put ds down shut the door and leave... (Stand out side if you like) if ds has not settled after 4 mins go back in saying shhh shh sleep time lay back down and leave again.. If you are consistent it will work. BUT having had some off days may take little time as DS grows you might need to change time of sleep to later.

hbbell · 04/06/2007 11:59

Sorry
The battle ground could move to night anyway wanting same cuddles etc Just try to be consistant with what sutes you 2

hbbell · 05/06/2007 11:59

Hi how did sleep time go today did you have any luck??

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Wills · 07/06/2007 08:02

Sorry hbbell. Loads of things happened this week and unfortunately no its now moved to the evening. Last night we started controlled crying and he took 2 hours. fingers crossed he takes less today!

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hbbell · 07/06/2007 13:43

Trouble is Ds getting to the age where they are so much more awear of all the excitting things happening around them...

Try to make the last 1/2 hr of the day very relaxed and gradualy quieten down to milk/story and bed same patter each night

Good luck for today and tonight stick at it you might have a few hard nights but give in now and it will be harder later.

Weegle · 07/06/2007 20:44

Sounds like it could possibly be separation anxiety. Amongst my son's peer group (similar ages) I've noticed a lot of them are having problems being left for naps/bedtime. I think reassurance is the key. Keep going in and reassuring every few minutes but don't actually lie down with him as he needs to know it is safe, you do come back. Thing is how long this takes to work depends on the child - DS took a few weeks then was fine for two weeks then it started again for 3 days, now fine again, but who knows! My friend's little girl has taken a lot more perseverance and she says she now just has to leave her to it as she was crying more by going in to her all the time, that must be heartbreaking. Repeat the mantra "tis a phase, will pass"!

hbbell · 22/06/2007 11:52

Hows it going any change...........?

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