To go or not to go?

[RayRae19]

So I want to hear thoughts about whether to go to a wedding this weekend, overnight about 3 hours away with my OH.

My LO is 14 months and this would be the first time we've left her overnight with someone else. The plan is for my dad to come and stay at our house with her. He lives over an hour away so doesn't see her that often but is the only person other than OH I've ever left her with (it was during the day before and that went fine).
The wedding is one of my OH's best friends and it's no children allowed. I respect that choice, it's their wedding after all, but it does make things difficult for us. When we were invited, I thought it would be a great idea for me and OH to get some quality time together and relax (we've only been out together twice since she was born) - our relationship is under a lot of strain and could do with some bonding time.

At the time when I agreed to go, LO was sleeping through about 95% of the time so I had no real worries, but in the last month or so she's completely lost the plot. Teething, colds, lack of sleep at nursery etc. seem to have destroyed her sleep patterns. She'll sleep through for a couple of nights and then nights like tonight she's woken 6 times!

What should I do? Is it fair on either one of them to leave her with my dad? If she sleeps it would be fine but if it's like tonight then it could be very stressful. I can explain how to settle her but it can be really hard to know what she needs.
Or should I accept that I just have to leave her sometime and take this rare opportunity for me and OH?
Or would I just not enjoy it because I'd be worrying? It's not even like it's close to home...

I keep going back and forth. It's not like I'm overprotective and don't want to leave her with other people (she goes to nursery 3 days a week while I work) it's just that our family all live 1-2 hours away and we don't really have any local friends who like children that much, so we don't really have a chance.

Thanks!

Go to the wedding, your dad will cope and can always phone if he needs advice. You might be worried while you're there but you've got your phone and when you come back and she's fine you'll feel better about leaving her the next time. Leave some written tips for if she's difficult but often different things work for different people so don't be too millitant.

Go, enjoy some adult only time ☺

It's a no win situation. Given that, I'd give it a shot and if it goes badly, you'll know for next time. She'll survive, it won't traumatise her. Tell your dad to make her a bottle and stick on CBeebies if she is upset. I'm sure he won't expect much sleep anyway!

Just remember, your dad had a baby once too, it's not his first time.

Some little ones behave better for people other than their parents so try not to worry
Could he not come and do a trial night at yours?
Go out for a meal and let him do the bedtime routine, wake in the night, morning routine? You are there if needed but DC will not know you are around

Go.
If your Dad is young / fit / healthy enough to look after her, then he will cope with little sleep for one night and go home glad he no longer has to do it night after night anymore.
As has been said, he's already been a Dad for a long time, he'll work it out. Give him permission to try whatever works for him, and go and enjoy yourselves.

Thanks everyone for the perspective. It's one night after all. I'm so busy worrying about everyone else all the time I forget to put myself first occasionally! It will do me and OH the world of good I think. Now to get some shoes!

Update: I went!
Just wanted to say thank you to everyone for your encouragement, I really was at the point of not going and I'm so glad that I did.
Things went fine for my dad (or if they didn't he was kind enough not to tell me!) and we had a brilliant time at the wedding, so fun to really let loose.
Got to remember that LO can survive even if things aren't perfect for a couple of days!

Great news. Glad you had a lovely time.
If you get another invitation, you'll know, now that all will be well.