Newborn and Toddler sleep help!

[Beeperbird]

My new DS2 is a week old and for the last few nights has fed near constantly from 11pm - 4am. I’m just breastfeeding at the moment. He’ll nod off on the boob when he’s in bed with me but the moment I put him in the bassinet he wakes and cries I don’t really want to co sleep as I’m worried about the risks.
I’ve tried warming the mattress, putting my nightie in for him to lie on, white noise, rocking etc but he just won’t sleep in the bassinet! During the day however he’ll happily be put down for a nap anywhere for some reason!
My struggle is now with my toddler - I can’t sleep during the day as I need to look after him, but I’m getting maybe 2 hours sleep a night and feel like I’m gonna collapse!
Any tips?
Someone has suggested combination feeding and giving DS2 a bottle at 10ish to help settle him, has anyone had any success with this?
Thanks

Congratualtions on your little one OP! My DS did very similar to this for the first few weeks. A few ideas that may help:
A bottle, absolutely. A few times DH gave a bottle so I could rest. It didn't always mean longer stretches of sleep though but if someone else can take over for a couple of hours, you can sleep!
White noise. No need to buy anything special - youtube on your phone and there are tracks lasting 10 hours. It needs to be quite loud so if it's not helping, turn it up.
Wind thoroughly. Lots of people say breastfed babies don't need winding but mine absolutely did. If asleep, hold the baby upright on you and wind should naturally work it's way out. Do this before attempting to put down.
Roll up a towel and place it around the bassinet. Secure sheet over the top. Forms a kind of DIY sleepyhead and can help baby to feel more secure.
Try a dummy.
Good luck- you will get through it!

I just want to wish you luck. I have a newborn - but having just one means I can sleep during the day. I don’t know how Mums do it when they have a second
Child. I hope it gets better quickly.

@KatnissK thanks will try out your suggestions!

@Bumblealong1 cheers 😊 congrats on your little one too!

What's your partner doing to help? My husband took DS from 7-11 each evening then from 6-8 in the morning so I could sleep at those times, apart from feeding and that kept me functioning, just about!

And it's perfectly normal for a newborn to want to be held, maybe google 4th trimester?

And co-sleeping can be safe if you research it. No covers above your waist, pillow away from baby, and you just curl round them. It saved me from 6-11 mo through illnesses and teething and I still end up in with DS for a bit of each night now.

@arbrighton
he started a new job a few weeks ago so has zero leave at the moment, he’s doing lots with my toddler (getting him up in the morning & breakfast before he goes to work and giving him dinner / bath / bed when he gets home then cooking us dinner.
I get that they want to be held but I’m so confused as to why he is happy to nap for 2 hours in his bassinet during the day but for some reason at night it’s the worst thing in the world!
I’ll do some research on co sleeping, I’ve read a lot of scary stories tho!