Family time with treacherous ex

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Wife left for another guy. We have a 3.5 yo.

In her head we will have a normal family life but tbh I'm happier with my boy on my own.

Should I feel obliged to spend family time with her for my boys sake? Even if it pains me?

She lied and cheated until the very end.

Are you asking if parents should put what is best for their children before their own wants?

Yes

Absolutely not. You have to be civil to arrange contact for your child but she has no right to expect you to pretend to be friends after what she’s done. She broke up your family. You each have your own family unit with your little one now.

No absolutely not!!

Your child can have a loving and secure upbringing with very separated parents.

Communicate through text or email and enjoy your time with your son without having her around.

Agree with pinkcherry - better a calm relaxed environment than one with tension

Why would you need to spend time with her if you aren’t together? I think it’s more confusing for children to have that and kids pick up on tension very easily

There is no tension.

Just that i don't want to see her. At all.

My inner voice says my son will benefit. But my heart can't take it. It's a conflict of values.

I'm going to arrange daycare so I never have to see her again.