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Firsttimer1234 · 06/08/2018 11:07

My son is now 9 weeks old, ever since he was born I've had problem after problem with my MIL and FIL. Mainly being too much, turning up at the hospital uninvited, at the house everyday for the forst two weeks I was home, scaling the gate to get in the back garden when I ignored the front door etc etc. Now I love instagram, post pictures of my lovely son and me and hubby and its a good way to keep in touch with my family that don't live anywhere near and don't get to see my son. My MIL follows me on instagram and comments and likes everything. She'll then text phone hubby and ask him about it. For example I post a picture of us in a park, she then will phone hubby within seconds and want every detail. This is the case with everything! I just feel like we don't have a private life. I know some people will say don't post it then but I post it as a record for myself something to look back on and for my friends and family to see, they all don't phone me up and start quizzing me about everything. Got to the point where she saw a picture that I'd posted of my son in the pushchair and she'd recognised that it was in the doctors so she phoned my husband up to quiz him, it was actually my after birth check up, so she then began to discuss what methods of birth control I should get from the doctor. They're just too much and I've had conversations with my husband to the point where I've told him how down they are making me. Nothing changes. I was hoping having a baby meant that me and my hubby started our journey as a new little family but it's not just the three of us, our family is me, my husband, my son and my MIL. Do I delete MIL off Instagram? That way she isn't involved in every single aspect of our lives?

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Burntofferings0 · 06/08/2018 17:17

Yep I second getting a new Instagram account.

I know it’s frustrating my mil was the same!

ourkidmolly · 06/08/2018 17:19

Scaled a gate? That's crazy. What did she do then? Bang on back door? How did she explain her behaviour? Does she have a job?

cricketmum84 · 06/08/2018 17:21

Discussion your birth control etc is a bit weird. I wouldn't be comfortable with MIL having a conversation with DH about that!!

As far as IG is concerned I'm sorry but I don't think you have a leg to stand on. You are posting on Social Media. That means that people will see your pictures and comment on them. Is it ok for your friends to see but not MIL? If so then this is massively unfair. If you don't want her to see then post all your pics into a private iCloud album not on social media. Simple as that.

Deleting her off Instagram is a bit mean imo and likely to make what already is starting to sound like a strained relationship even worse!

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RapunzelsRealMom · 06/08/2018 18:27

Block her on IG. I unfriended MIL on fb and, when she queried, I just acted daft!! "Really MIL? That's weird! Must be a glitch "

MrsSnootyPants2018 · 06/08/2018 22:09

@cricketmum84 I think your being a little harsh on the IG thing. Yes she posts it and posting on social media tracts comments, but that's not what @Firsttimer1234 MIL is doing. She's basically interrogating her DH about it.

cricketmum84 · 08/08/2018 07:51

@MrsSnootyPants2018 really? It certainly wasn't intended to be harsh.

Unfortunately it's just the perils of social media - if you are posting things then people will like and comment. The only way to keep these moments away from MIL is to block her and that is going to cause WW3. And apart from being heavily over-invested in their grandchild what possible reason would there be to stop her from seeing these moments? What good would ever come out of blocking her? If she is as over-invested as you say then not being able to see these snippets would devastate her.

I think DH needs to deal with this one and gently tell her that she is coming in a bit strong and that you guys need some space.

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