how often should my 2 1/2 yr old dd be having accidents?

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i was sooooooooooooooo lucky with my ds. i potty trained him at 2.1 and it took about 10 days and since then he has had 3 accidents in total and he is now nearly 4!

stupidly, i assumed my dd would be the same!!! started potty training her at 2.4 and she took about 10 days to 'get it', but since then she has been having about one accident a week either a poo or wee.

i just wondered what the average was, i realise i was extrememly lucky with my ds.also, should i be getting cross with her or not? sometimes i literally ask her a minute before if she needs to go, she says 'no' and then the next minute wees everywhere.

Never be cross for toilet mistakes, ever imo. My dd wasn't potty trained until just over 3 and ds1 was 3.5, only just done and he has had just one or 2 accidents after the initial few days.

Tbh my eldest charge (6) is the same! I'll say to her 'i think you ought to go to the toilet', she'll swear blind she doesn't need to go, then no more than 1 minute later she'll be dashing to the toilet with wet knickers . I just put it down to there being more interesting things going on than a trip to the bathroom

One a week sounds pretty good at 2 1/2. Ds1 at 3 was still having many accidents, even at nearly 4 he would still sometimes have them at home if he was engrossed in something.

Your dd is doing well - one accident a week isn't too bad considering she's only been potty trained a couple of months.

Let her know that's it's not the thing you want her to do.

As for never getting cross - my dd1 had been potty trained a year when she suddenly started having accidents every day at the same time. I tryed the softly softly approach and it didn't work. Then one day I yelled at her, and strangly enough, she's never had an accident since. With the softly softly approach she simply didn't realise she was doing anything wrong.