Playground mishap

[Winterflower84]

Here to release my anger...
Busy playground, DD, 3, approaches the roundabout where children from one family are seated and their father is about to push. They welcome DD, and before I know it, the father starts to push with such force that terrified, I lose my ability to scream STOP and only catch DD's face who starts crying and screaming mummy. The father stops, I hug DD, take her away, kiss her, try to calm her down. The father approaches to say sorry. All I say is 'it's OK, she's just scared.' So much regret now that I didn't say 'Where is your judgement, where is your common sense , you idiot? If your children are used to your crazy actions on a roundabout, a random little girl may not!' I wish he read it at least here. Sorry, that episode does not let me sleep. Needed to write this down.

I'm going to reply as no one else has - it's a hard one to respond to and not really an AIBU, you know you're not.

How awful and scary for your daughter but probably more so for you. Don't forget that they learn by the necessity of experiencing fear regularly and that she was probably equally scared of a loud bike going by or a dog or a freaky clown on kids tv. I was a terribly over protective mother to DC 1 and would have gone to pieces if this happened but then I'd probably also have given the same minimising response when the rogue father apologised - which he did, can't ask for more really - please don't beat yourself up OP, she's fine and safe and it wasn't your fault.

Are you still losing sleep over this OP? Do you regularly suffer with anxiety?

He made a little kid cry and he apologised - I think he understands the impact of his actions already. I doubt he would do the same thing again now as the incident was a learning experience for him too.

He stopped instantly and apologised.

My kids would have loved a crazy dad pushing them really fast instead of boring old safe mummy. He wasn't to know yours wouldn't.

Don't lose sleep over it. It's such a tiny thing. He prob got a right telling off when he got home when his kids announced ' daddy made a kid cry '

Crikey.

So he pushed it to hard for your DD and when he realised, he apologised? And you can’t sleep over it? Do you suffer from anxiety normally?

Sounds like he was being nice and stopped as soon as he realised your dd was frightened
You might need to address your anxiety before it affects your dd if it hasn’t already

You are being massively over sensitive. He pushed your DC a bit too hard, and apologised immediately. Maybe his children like to go fast and he didn't realise your daughter wouldn't?
I really can't see what you're so worked up about now she won't have any long term damage from being frightened for a short time.

He pushed the roundabout and stopped when she got upset and said sorry. Not sure what he did wrong? Most children enjoy going fast on the roundabout if yours doesn’t then maybe you should push to control the speed?

Um, that's a huge over reaction. No long term harm done. Next time, say something like 'she only likes gentle pushes, is it still ok for her to join you?'.

Crazy actions? Blimey

Youu said in your thread title it was a mishap. Not attempted murder

He realised,he stopped ,he apologised. That's all there is to it. The language you use is very OTT and overly emotional. You're making a big deal out of nothing.

How are children expected to be able to handle powerful emotions such as fear if they never experience them?

It's good for children to have experiences that take them outside of their comfort zone
It helps them to regulate their feelings and grow up to be well rounded individuals who are resilient and can cope with life

Seems very extreme to be so angry still

Log it with the police 👮‍♂️

He wasn't to know what speed your daughter is used to but stopped it as soon as he realised she didn't like it and apologized.
You can't expect more than that from him really.

He went to fast for your little girl, stopped and apologised when he realised,

non issue

Crazy action on a roundabout

Just how crazy can it get? Surely it just goes around??

I'm guessing from your reaction that if he started pushing and your dd had to wait, or if they didn't welcome her, that it would also have been a problem.

From your post it reads as if it was your panicked screaming that upset your child. I know mine would certainly be startled if I screamed like that.

That's how I read it too, scroble

Why were you terrified to the point you couldn't speak? It's a roundabout not a rocket

Sounds like he pushed it in a way his kids love...he probably expected, based on what he has learned from his own kids that the faster the better is the most fun on a roundabout.

He apologised. No fault no foul.

If it's upset you this much though you should seek out a friendly ear to talk your anxieties through.

There are many more challenges ahead than enthusiastic dad's on roundabouts that you might want to get some support with or you will be wrung out with it all.

Parenting is hard. Try not to sweat the small stuff - which this is.

Absolutely ridiculous.
You need to get some help.

PFB alert.

Total overreaction. Your child was on playground equipment meant to be pushed. Someone pushed it. Your child got upset, They stopped. You screamed at a man using the equipment in the way it was meant to.