When do the terrible 2s end??

[MummyToBeAgain1]

Hii

Can anyone tell me when we get past this stage before I go crazy!! My 2yr 10month old ds is a bloody nightmare.

I feel like he's going to drive me crazy. The tantrums, rants, screaming in public.. he's driving me mad.

I'v got a 6 month old too and feel like I can't enjoy my time with her because I'm using so much of my energy on ds.

When does it end???

Sorry OP, you just have to learn to placate, put up, ignore, pick your battles, etc.

How verbal is he? That makes a difference.

Does he feel put out with the baby? Do you get one to one time with him?

It’s shit, isn’t it?

I often joke that my DD turned into a reasonable human being once she turned four. It’s pretty true though.

DS recently turned three and is still a whingey, tantrummy PITA, so I’m crossing my fingers that the worst will be behind us this time next year!

Sleepingstandingup
Well, he did start talking pretty late tbh and is still learning to get his sentences together so could be that. And I'm toilet training.

We do get time together but by the end of the 'me' time, I'm so tired, annoyed and pissed off to be frank I regret it.

Haworthia
Seriously, it is. I want my little innocent and caring boy back!!

Everyday is a battle from when he wakes up until he sleeps.

And yep I hope mine changes at 4 too, otherwise I'm screwed! lol

Do you need to pick your battles more?
Is he getting enough sleep?

It is a hard age, and they do generally grow out of it but it can become a cycle of your stress over his behaviour triggering his behaviour and negative feedback.

What kind of stuff sets him off?

When they leave home

Errrr DD turned 3 last weekend and so far the tantrums/contrariness/general demands are ramping up even more. I too have heard that 4 is a turning point... Let's hope so

Never is my answer. My 3yo DD drives me crazy. I helplessly cried today at the edge of the playground. Hopefully my sunglasses concealed it. I am not able to control her especially when we're outside and my requests and orders are most of the time being neglected. Plus, horrible tantrums that I cannot stand anymore.

Agree with another poster who questioned whether he is getting enough sleep? DD2 only started to chill out at 5 but at 6 if she doesn't get enough sleep she still freaks out. However my DD1 just started to completely calm down at 3 so it is very much down to the child.
My DS is 2yo and was very bad with tantrums but I now avoid (if I can) doing things which I know will result in a tantrum, I make sure I tell him what's going to happen so that he can prepare himself (i.e. We are going for a walk but DH is going in the car), and if he tantrums he always gets a time out and overall it is getting better even though he is still non verbal.

My 8 year old still has tantrums on a regular basis...

My bloody 18 year old had a tantrum the other day FFS

Never to be quite frank. My 18 year old seems to forget she's 18 and not 2. Her brother was never as bad as she was!

My 2.5 year old had the most mega tantrum when we were out yesterday. I was on my own with no buggy and had to fight with him screaming his head off for about an hour while also getting to a train station, on the train, then the bus and then a walk. Felt like crying myself. Got home for 11.30am and just sat at home feeling sorry for myself the rest of the day

My 3 and a half year old turned evil at 3. I thought 2 was bad! I regularly get told, "I don't like you!" I get hit and screamed at. It's heartbreaking and exhausting as everything is a battle - food, playing, leaving the house etc.... I've now got a 3 week old and it seems to have gotten worse. The only way I can get through it is that at points in the day he tells me he loves me and gives me a hug and at bed time he gets stickers so the crying has stopped then. Im hoping he calms down at 4. My newborn has reflux and is a bad sleeper but is easier than my 3 year old!

about 23 .....

its really normal for his age, sortry your having a tough time with this. ive found the best thing is to learn about what is happening and why, and understand their brain development so that I can see where the behaviour is coming from(whole brain child is a good book) that way im less frustrated with the behaviour and have the tools to manage it without blowing up from frustration, which really only adds fuel to the fire. heres a really good article about managing. the positive discipline course is really great too attachmentparenting.co.uk/project/i-dont-negotiate-with-terrorists-or-toddlers/

At 19 it gets easier.

I found 3.5 a turning point from the toddler stage, but at 4.5 there's a lot of silly lies, and seemingly vindictive behaviour and rudeness instead.