Normal or bad behaved?

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In short, I feel nervous taking my 13 month old anywhere.

He gets bored SO quickly and just wants to explore (which is great!) however it's difficult when we're out and about. Shopping for example. He screams to be on the floor.

If he's not screaming to be on the floor. He's screaming because he's tired. But he will NOT sleep in the pram. He will only go in the cot, but this totally restricts us having days out.

How can I get him to behave 😩

Even at home his whinges if he's not getting attention every 5 mins!

If a 13 month old is screaming it’s not because he’s ‘badly behaved’, it’s because he’s expressing displeasure at something and that’s the only way he knows how to do it.

he's a baby! he can't be "badly behaved"

don't let him restrict days out - people have to live with baby's crying, its part and parcel of living in the human race.. he won't cry forever in the push chair, he will settle or sleep eventually

Sorry for my choice of words.

It's just embarrassing to walk about with a screaming baby who won't settle no matter what I do :(

He sounds like a typical one year old. Mine needed lots of outside play all year round. Park visits; in the garden, lots of activity. Shopping just wasn’t an option really unless I’d walked him there and it was a short visit.

You might need to adjust expectations.

Dd is 13.5 months and, from nowhere, is going through a really awkward stage. She used to be a really content, calm, happy person when we were out but similar to your DS she gets bored easily, whinges, whines, cries. Last week we had to leave a restaurant cos she wouldn't stop screaming as she wanted to get down and roam around and I wouldnt let her. For her I think its all related to movement- shes on the cusp of walking and finds anything that isnt walking a waste of time and screams like she's being attacked. I vaguely remember my friends son being like this at the same age and hes now far less tricky...so I'm hoping that itll pass...

I can't really help you too much with the sleep problem. Is he in a well established nap routine so you can at least plan your day around it. Dd is a crap napper too but does at least fall asleep in the car which is helpful

For sleeping - have you got an outward facing pram? I had to switch ds to outward facing at a similar age otherwise he’d scream for me when tired.

Also re behaviour: I never go anywhere now without a selection of toys and books to entertain her if we will be sitting still for any length of time

What do you do currently to entertain/distract him? I never went anywhere without a bag of tricks at that age. Usually a few toys and books to start with culminating in out and out bribes of pouches and snacks.

If things got really desperate DD loved rooting through my purse or swiping at my phone screensaver.

Personally at that age I don't think you can really expect them to endure long periods of voluntarily 'behaving' in very boring places.

Toys/books he will be happy for a few minutes then he throws them across the room.

Naps he is good with at home in the cot but it's just impossible in the pushchair. I think it's because he's so interested, naturally in everything around him but is too tired to enjoy it!

I think I'm being silly. It feels like I'm the only person in the world with a screaming baby/toddler and everyone else's seem to "behave" around us haha. I feel so anxious that we're annoying peopel

Your baby’s crying sounds worse to you than anyone else. I remember panic buying a toy to keep ds quiet but on reflection it wasn’t that bad!

Also worth getting a cover for the pushchair to avoid distractions

What about a push along bike thing?

its their problem if they are annoyed by a crying baby. They cried when they were babies