Anxious about family/baby meet and greet

[Cosmoa]

My OH and I are at his Nan's for the weekend so that our 11 week old daughter can meet some of the extended family, which is lovely.

However, his Nan (who raised my OH for most of his life) keeps saying over and over "you're not gonna get to see her tomorrow" meaning my daughter, because everyone will be wanting to spend their time with her.

I know she's kinda joking but it feels like she's kind of not too. I'm just getting anxious about my baby getting over stimulated and although I can be outspoken at times, I don't feel like I can in big group situations. I've tried warning her that I'm gonna have to bring her away for a nap if she gets tired because I've had issues with this in the past. I was at my parents the other day for my sisters birthday and everyone was being noisy whenever she slept so she was getting fussy and less and less settled when people wanted their turn to hold her.

I guess I'm kind of just hoping that everyone will know to just give her to me if she gets upset. But I'm just worried I'm gonna have to take her from people and they'll think I'm being overprotective or something...

She's generally a very happy baby but she doesn't deal well with being passed around! She likes to just sit and look at smile at people but I know they will all want a hold!

Any advice?

I think you might be overthinking this OP. If she gets overstimulated, it’s just one day. Take her off for a feed and both relax for a few minutes.

If she’s cranky and you want her back, just ask the person holding her and they should hand her straight back. Tell your DH how you’re feeling and ask him for back up if anyone doesn’t hand LO straight back. He doesn’t have to upset anyone, just a simple “she needs a nappy change/feed/nap and a smile should be enough

Yeah I probably am overthinking it. But I think it's just cause she's been annoying me by constantly saying "you're not going to see her at all tomorrow" like over and over aaalll day 😂 it's been driving me crazy! I'll just have to put my foot down and tell people they can have a little hold if she's awake and then just leave her to play in her rocker and on her mat..

I've just had quite a few stressful family days since she's been born where I've gotten overwhelmed and upset and not said anything when I should have. She's always slept really well after days like that though cause nobody let's her nap properly 😂

I’d feel the same. My OH is Italian and his family seems to think our children are there for their amusement! You’re being a good mum by putting your baby’s needs first. If you think the baby is tired or overstimulated just take her away. Or maybe you could suggest one or two of the family members takes her out for a walk so she can nap if it’s all getting too much and you can have a bit of a break (but only if you want one!)

She probably doesn’t mean anything by it, people can be so thoughtless. The best thing to do is smile and nod and completely forget about her comments.

You may need to be more assertive with other people, don’t sit there in silence, if you want your baby back, you just ask, it’s your baby. No need for upset or drama

Yeah I've just been trying to laugh it off.. I don't like confrontation so I'd never let any drama happen!

I like idea of letting them take her for a walk whilst I relax though! I think she'd like that 😊

Thanks!