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AIBU to be furious with my husband?

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user1489875480 · 02/08/2018 15:07

He’s away in a luxury hotel on a “golf break” because he “put it on the calendar months ago”. Didn’t ask me. Just booked it. God knows who he’s gone with. I don’t show an interest in golf. I was awake all night making myself ill with worry about the thought of him having an affair.

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HollowTalk · 02/08/2018 15:08

Didn't you ask him who he was going with?

I have to say I'd be thinking "affair" in this situation. How is he with you generally?

SenoritaViva · 02/08/2018 15:11

I wouldn’t be thinking affair automatically, I’d be thinking my husband had booked a fun time away with friends. Strange that you didn’t discuss it more before he left though, plans/who with/financial decision of money spent.

Blaablaablaa · 02/08/2018 15:13

Yes that is pretty dreadful. He just went without discussion? Me and my DH don't even organise nights out without checking first!! It's just polite

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Kingkiller · 02/08/2018 15:16

Booking without mentioning it is certainly unreasonable, but I don't understand why that would indicate that he's having an affair.

HollowTalk · 02/08/2018 15:17

Senorita, why would you assume he'd gone with friends when he hasn't said who he's gone with?

YeTalkShiteHen · 02/08/2018 15:20

It’s a dick move to organise a night away without at least talking to you, but I’m curious as to why your first thought was an affair? Are there other reasons which brought you to that conclusion?

SenoritaViva · 02/08/2018 15:25

@hollowtalk equally why would I assume he’s gone with a lover? I assume (quite possibly wrongly) that had he been planning deceit then he’d have strung me a web of lies before leaving.

In reality IF it happened I think the likelihood it was a work thing he’d forgotten to tell me about but I just can’t ever imagine not having discussed it with DH first. He must have mentioned something for OP to know he’s a)away, b) at luxury hotel c) playing golf, or was this all written on calendar?

beeefcake · 02/08/2018 15:25

What a bastard I would be furious. Could you crash his weekend?!?!

BastardGoDarkly · 02/08/2018 15:28

What calendar? How has this not come up in conversation before?

I struggle to see how this would happen, I'm a normal communicative relationship.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 02/08/2018 15:55

When did you find out then? When he whipped his case out and started packing?!

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