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WHY can't ds2 keep his clothes on?

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:33

So. DS2 has always taken his clothes off, and I've kind of shrugged it off and thought it was probably okay, just one of the many ways in which DS2 is a bit daft.
But he's seven now. During the winter we have compromised on pyjamas in the house, and DS1 insists he get dressed if any of his friends come round.

What's the thinking? Acceptable or weird?

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:34

completely naked? Turn the heating down and open windows.

fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 22:36

does he say why he does it? does he find his clothes uncomfortable?
I don't think i'd have a problem with it personally, he'll grow out of it once he becomes more self-conscious about his body

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:40

Yes completely naked would be his preference, absolutely.

I have asked him this fingerwoman, and he says they're okay but he'd rather not wear anything, and he does wear very worn and washed clothes from DS1. He clearly CAN wear them - like at school - I mean he doesn't take them off there. Just at home.

And now we've got the pj thing going on, well I don't know if I'll ever get him dressed again.

Omg - perhaps is mini-naturist?

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:40

Actually I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but if OP finds it embarrasses siblings etc. then perhaps they have to set limits on it.

I have some friends who are always naked when they are at home. It's fine once you know to expect it. But during the holidays the temp postie gets a shock!

whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:41

Perhaps. Maybe you could try getting baggy drawstring pants for him and really soft cotton organic t shirts. Clothes that feel like PJs.

fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 22:44

yeah maybe he just is a bit sensitive to stuff so prefers things that are nice and soft and doesn't feel like he is wearing much.

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:45

But we don't sit around naked! We wear clothes.

Is there an answer to the 'why'? If I ask him he just shrugs.

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fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 22:45

if you have enough nice worn, washed stuff from ds1 then that's ok, but if not then could you take him shopping when you buy clothes so that he can try things on to see how comfy they'll be?
I am sure he'll still prefer being nude, but it might make it easier for him when he does need/want to wear stuff

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:46

whomoved - yes, have done this. Am keeping Boden afloat by buying tartan baggies.

Sensory thing? Oh. He did ask me to cut a label out of a pair of trousers yesterday. Why would he have a sensory thing? Like sensitive skin do you mean?

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:46

Sounds like he's getting a great deal of attention from being naked. Have you tried ignoring it or getting naked yourself?

fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 22:48

yeah, I remember someone else on here saying that their little girl was the same- really, really picky about what she wore because of how it felt on her, even down to the ridges on the toes of her socks being uncomfortable

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:49

Now you're talking whomoved. We could all go naked, would be exhilerating. Perhaps he's on to something.

Actually, doesn't get that much attention from it, because we're all so used to it. Just was thinking about it today, and wondering. . . .

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:50

Well why not, have a naked Tuesday or whatever and see if he goes off the idea when he's seen you all marching around naked.

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:51

Oh GOD, sounds exhausting. Picky. Hmmm. He's okay, would rather not wear jeans or things with tight waistbands. Oh dear, I thought he was daft but now he's got SENSITIVE issues. Oh dear.

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:52

Have a hunch Naked Tuesday would be his favourite day. DS1 would pack his bag and leave home. This I know.

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fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 22:54

well there you go, it must irritate him to have it on.
just let him pick his own nice soft clothes and he'll be fine.
Honestly, it won't be that long before he really doesn't want any of you seeing him naked, and then he'll soon get dressed

whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:55

Ah so he's doing it to wind his brother up?

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:56

okay. you are nice wise lady. So we'll go with acceptable then, and make sure he always has comfy clothes, and hope for the best.
Could always burn the pjs I suppose, let's face it, its not like he SLEEPS in them.

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whomovedmychocolate · 31/05/2007 22:57

I'd personally get a book of stickers and stick one to him every time he went past starkers. Either he'll put some clothes on or build a paper outfit by degree

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:57

whomoved, no he does other things to wind his brother up. All sorts of endless intriguing exploits for that. No, I really think he does it because he wants to. And when DS1 says his mate is coming round, ds2 says, 'okay I'll get dressed.'

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 22:58

Yes is a good idea re the stickers. BUT now we've established he's got sensitivity issues and isn't daft, he'll start on about 'the gluuuue, aggh, eugh, aaagh'. Hardly worth the effort.

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fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 23:04

do you know i've often thought that kids jeans don't look that comfy which is why I rarely buy tyhem for ds unless it's winter and he'll be wearing a vest under it.
the elastication makes it all scrunchy and hard- i think I wouldn't like to wear them myself.

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ahundredtimes · 31/05/2007 23:06

Yes I agree. And they don't look like they're going to give do they - in the knee I mean - all crunchy and hard. I wouldn't wear them. And neither will ds2.

Feel reassured now, but looking forward to the bit when he can't bear for us to see him naked AND I've burnt the pjs. Hoorah. Organic t-shirts will be us.

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fingerwoman · 31/05/2007 23:09

haha, I used to nanny for a family with 5 boys and I reckon the not wanting to be seen naked kicked in at around 8 or 9. certainly didn't want me to give them their bath any more anyway lol

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