In laws doing my head in with DD!

[myotherbagisgucci]

I don't know why I'm posting tbh, I think I just need to vent! Sorry longish post!

I'm currently on holiday with DH, MIL, FIL and my 7 month DD. I'm having a lovely time with DH and DD, but I wish we'd have come alone.

I find my in laws over baring at times, especially around my DD. I know they want to help etc. and spend time with her, but they never listen to me.

1st Example: DD was crying this morning because she needed a nap, my MIL had hold of her and I said I'll take her. She relied, I'll do it, just give me a minute. DD fell asleep straight away, but I wanted to settle her, and MIL just dismissed what I'd said.

2nd Example: I went for a shower at 7pm and left DD with DH, I came down around 7.45pm expecting her to be asleep. Only to find FIL bouncing DD up and down! Took me until 9pm to get her to bed! 😡

3rd Example: DD was hungry (I could tell) my FIL was holding her and I said I'll take her inside for my bottle. My FIL was reluctant to give her back and said she's not hungry (in a joking fashion, but I could tell he wasn't).

I know these might sound trivial, but she's our daughter and I feel like they're trying taking over!

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with DC2 and don't know if I'm being hormonal and overreacting. I don't even know what I'm expecting to get from this post, I just feel frustrated with them all the time!

We holidayed with ils (now exh), fil set his alarm every other hour during the night to check ds had blankets on!! (Adjoining chalets and ds went in with them at their insistance) Alarm woke us all up ..
Every night
For a week.
Never shared a holiday again!!
Make notes on your phone calendar today with a reminder for next year - DO NOT BOOK HOLIDAY WITH ILS AGAIN.

I think you are over reacting a bit, they just want to be near her.
They are not being ogres they just want to be part of her life.
Give them jobs to do with her, give her breakfast, take her for a walk and then when you want her take her back.

I don't want to give them jobs though, I want to do them. It took me 7 years to have my DD and I adore the time we spend together. I just feel like they're ready to jump in and take over at any given opportunity.

I think you might be being a little over sensitive to be honest. I think they sound interested and rather nice. That said, do make sure you have your own time too.

It genuinely sounds like she wants to be helpful. She's probably trying to give you a break. I had terrible trouble with toxic ILs, they undermined me all the time, this is not the same.

When DC2 comes along, you will be grateful that someone's around to entertain your 14 month old baby!

If i were you I would let them have this time as you will need them to help you when your little one arrives. Think long term. Don't spoil your relationship over very minor things like this. And next time don't book a holiday with them (although when your little one arrives you might change your mind and welcome their help).

Mine are exactly the same. What you describe would drive me mad and is reminding me why we should never book a joint holiday!