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My ex is moving house and dumping crap he’s bought our son at our house.

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JKCR2017 · 27/07/2018 20:46

Basically, I have a 7yo DS with my ex. We split up when DS was a little baby.

My ex has always had a spending problem and a bit of a hoarder which is only one of the many reasons we broke up.

He always buys DS things that he likes himself (my ex is very childlish) rather than what DS actually needs and likes. He treats Christmas, birthdays etc as a competition which is laughable considering he has him once a week for a few hours.

He’s always bought DS so many presents over the years. Half of which DS wasn’t interested in as he had autism and very specific interests. Luckily he’s kept most of it over his dads as I haven’t got room for it all here with all the stuff we have.

His Dad is moving in with his girlfriend and their baby and ever since they got he house he’s been bringing more and more stuff over at drop off time. I try and say no but DS is keen to bring it in and dump it somewhere and never look at it again 😬😬 he gets upset if I say no.

Tonight, he brought in a massive bag of clothes that he bought for DS over the years (all stuff I wouldn’t pick myself). Asked me to sort through it and anything too small I could donate to a charity shop. I looked through it and it’s all ridiculously too small!! So why couldn’t he bloody donate it to a charity shop? It’s not like I ever bought these clothes or would miss them. Like I haven’t got enough to do looking after a child with additional needs and a toddler during the summer holidays! 🙄

The other day they brought over a massive toy he already has. So now I have two of the same!

I feel like they are off loading on us because they are moving and it’s driving me crazy!

If he gives us anymore crap, I’m gonna go mad! 😂

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Alienspaceship · 27/07/2018 20:50

Er, have you actually tackled your ex about his shit shifting?

AveABanana · 27/07/2018 20:53

My dad's been doing this for years - he's cleaned out his loft, sheds and garage. I've taken to chucking the things he's transported to my house directly into the bin in front of him. He's a 2 minute walk away from 4 charity shops, I'm a 5 minute drive. Last time I went to see him I took 3 bags for the charity shop. He's just beginning to get my point.

anotherangel2 · 27/07/2018 20:57

Sell it all and treat yourself to something nice or just refuse it all.

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OlennasWimple · 27/07/2018 21:03

Tell him not us!

Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 27/07/2018 21:07

Sell the lot.
It is a hassle but sell it on fb in bundles so you don't have to sort through much, and take anything left to the tip in one go, or if you get charities that put bags through the door.

Then spend it all on wine for you, it sounds like you will need it to keep dealing with your ex!

timeisnotaline · 27/07/2018 21:24

Sell the lot. Or change plans and don’t let him come to your house till after he’s moved. Call it the ‘interim I’m busy parenting and don’t want the crap you buy him instead of parenting’ plan.

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