does anyone have 3 children under 3 and work full time?

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If so, how do you make your life work?

Do you have a nanny or send any of the DC to nursery?

Did you breastfeed?

How hands on is your DH?

What is your relationship like with your DC?

How do you feel in yourself? Always exhausted? Pulled in all directions? Can't give enough to everybody? Worried about money? (Or positive!)

What happens when they're ill? One gets something then they all get it (like d&v) and you get it. And you either have to take time off work or plough through? How do you cope?

Do you see it as a short term sacrifice for long term gain?

Personally i would never have 3 under 3

I would never have 3 under 3.

I never had 3 under 3. If I had wanted that I wouldn't have planned to work ft.

With a gaggle of little ones all so similar in age you would be forking out a fortune in child care - so let us hope your job pays well!

Better to stay at home for a few years and enjoy them, as you will not be likely to be in financial profit by working.

Personally i would never have 3 under 3

Never heard of multiple births? You can't always plan for every eventuality you know...

Op, I had 3 under 3 (4 under 5 in fact) but was made redundant when I had the twins ( my youngest two) which was a blessing in hindsight.

A Nanny seemed the best solution for friends in a similar situation.

I’ve got 3 under 6 and am back to work full time in September - there’s almost exactly 5 years between my oldest and youngest.

They will go to school / nursery. If I’m honest, I’ve no idea how it will work!

And it's brilliant now, definitely short term pain for long term gain.

They get on well, and entertaining them all is easier than for friends who have larger age gaps. I'm back at work now ( twins are 7 but I went back when they were 3) and we muddle through just fine.

Dh is v hands on and we live in a great community where people help each other out with lift shares etc, which helps a lot.

They appear to get the attention they need from us and I do feel a bit frazzled occasionally juggling everyone's needs but in general it's great.

@Dauphinois you sound great and so together for having so many but I really just wanted to point out that the term 'hands on' in terms of a Dad or husband just emphasises sexist stereotypes. You shouldn't see yourself as lucky to have a partner who pulls their weight domestically or parents their children, because if they didn't they're a waste of space!

I had 3 under 4 and chose not to work FT still do part time and have never regretted it. Job still done well.
PT was exhausting enough and I missed them (though no working would have driven me insane). I've actually found as they got older (early teens) they liked and needed me being about more.

I had 3 under 3 (twins when ds1 was 2) and stopped work...childcare costs made it pointless. I have never regretted it, fab 5 years. Went back to work the day twins started school, first part time and later full- after school care cost was an issue. I am very lucky that we could survive on one wage and that my profession is reasonably easy to get back into.

Nope. Would never ever do it.

Bearcub I only put that because the op specifically asked that question.

I agree, it should be a given but sadly too often it's not.

@Dauphinois yes i have heard of multiple births, which run in my partners family and he is also a twin. Therefore, we have no plans to ttc again until our LO is starting primary school for this reason. And that's only if we do, we may just stick with 1 child. We couldn't afford to send multiple children to nursery and i don't want to have to give up work.

That's why i said 'personally', i don't want to spend any years of my childs life frazzled