4 year old still not sleeping through the night

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He goes to sleep on his own every night in his own lovely bed. 7pm bedtime. Has a bath, brushes his teeth, has a story and then falls asleep on his own but will wake up every single night between 1am and 4am and come in bed with me. Normally talks my head off for half an hour before falling asleep again until 6am. Once he wakes me up I find it hard most nights to get back to sleep. It's exhausting. I wouldn't mind if there was space in the bed and I could get a good nights sleep but I just don't. WTF can I do!?

PLEASE HELP ME MN. I am so Fucking exhausted. What am I doing wrong here

Stairgate on his door so he learns to stay in his room. He can entertain himself till he falls back to sleep.

Have you told him to go back to bed? Our 5 yo still tries this and in this weather there's no way he can sleep with me and dh. So if he comes in, I give him a cuddle, tell him I love him and send him back to bed.

The more I do that, the less he comes in. We do have nightlights too, because he was waking up scared of the dark (new black out curtains!) which have helped.

He is 4 years old. You need to put your foot down.

Give him a bottle of water and books next to his bed, and a dimmed lamp. If he wakes up at night he can read in his own room quietly and have water and then he has to go to bed. Explain to him from now on he is not allowed in your room at night. Tell him also if he doesn't abide by that you will be forced to lock your room.

Get a bigger bed?!! We have a similar almost 4 year old, although it’s usually only 5 mins before everyone is alseep again. Husband usually goes to sleep in DS’ room to male more space.

I agree you need to tell him to go back to bed. I know it can be hard and easy to get into these habits. My 3 year old was waking and sleeping in the spare bed with her dad most nights till recently. It got bad when I was pregnant and then had a new baby to look after and we just needed sleep. We now don't have the spare bed as she has now got that room and we haven't let her sleep in our bed since and she hasn't asked. She does still wake in the night but we just take her back to bed and sit there for a couple of mins till she is asleep. We don't let her talk of mess about if we can help it.

Gosh have you ever thought to tell him no?

Have you attempted to put him back in his bed? I know in the middle of the night you just want an easy life for a nights sleep but it will be the only solution.