long post, sorry!* a few weeks ago we stayed over at some close friends and went to a 40th party in the evening. They have a boy and girl, who our ds plays with although is not very close to. The children had a fun evening with the babysitter planned, watch a film and then my ds was sleeping over in their ds' bedroom. My ds is 5 yo and theirs is 6 yo.
The next morning my ds told me quite easily that their ds had "eated" his willy. He didn't seem particularly worried or upset and told me he thought it was funny. I should also point out that their ds is much bigger than my ds, head and shoulders taller. I didn't interrogate him but got enough detail to assure me that this was true. We discussed what to do if that happens again and I tried not to show how upset I was by hearing this.
I told our friends (the boys parents) about what had happened. Mother of the boy got very upset and interrogated him for an hour and father was also standing by trying to be supportive. The boy kept repeating "I don't remember, I don't think so" when being questioned about our ds' version of events.
The boys parents feel he has been caught doing minor @naughty" things in the past and has always admitted to it after a while of talking about it. In their opinion as he was interrogated and didn't veer from his line this is more likely to be true.
I called a charity hotline a day later to get some more advice, they were very helpful and felt it would be very important that our friends get in touch for advice too
When I rang them to tell them about it, they said they did not feel the need to discuss it any longer with their ds as he'd been through enough and they believed him. They also proceeded to say they felt my ds had made it up!!
We had a long conversation that was difficult but they finally agreed to call the hotline.
My problem now is my friend the mother of the boy is contacting me about arranging play dates and to be honest I'm still very angry about this all. This probably reflects me personally and my baggage about being taken advantage of when I was younger but I really can't face putting our ds in the same room as theirs.
My dh feels they have kept their end of the bargain and as he is best mates with the boys father that we need to remain on friendly terms.
I may also be angry with myself for letting ds sleep in their boys room as he has always been physically intimidating.
Has anyone been in a similar situation and have some advice to share? Or just thoughts on the above as I felt the need to air it somewhere.