Baby fell off bed

[badmumma]

NC as I feel like the worst mum ever. DD is 5.5 months and usually settles in our bed before transferring her to her cot after an hour or so (when she's in a deep sleep). Was watching tv with DH in the living room and heard her cry so DH ran in and said she was lying on the floor having rolled right off the bed Our bed is low to the ground so she didn't fall far and DH only sleeps with one pillow so had his spare one on the floor which she thankfully fell on to. Checked her over for marks and no signs of anything. She was quite upset from the fright but seems fine in herself and settled ok with a cuddle.

What should we do? I feel like the most horrible mum ever, can't believe what's happened

It's a rite of passage as a parent to experience the utter guilt when this happens. Because it happens a lot. Please don't dwell on it! Baby is fine and won't ever remember it until later in life when you look back and tell them about it whilst laughing.

Or maybe that's just me... 😳

I clicked on this because I wrote the exact same post about 4 years ago! Lots of people came on telling me that it has happened to their babies but I felt so guilty. And in our case it was a hard wooden floor and a full bed height.

Our baby was fine. (A big healthy 5 year old now!) but you know your baby. If you think there’s something wrong with her, then get her checked out. But try not to beat yourself up about it. You are not a bad mum

I would never ever leave her on a bed on her own. You had a lucky escape but please cuddle her until she's asleep. Then put her in her cot.

Don't feel guilty but don't let it happen again.

Okay firstly you aren't the worse mum ever. You are a human being, we aren't always perfect and babies are so darn quick to learn new tricks! Assuming your baby isn't being sick or otherwise not responding as normal, then have a cup of tea and recover. This has happened to me and so many friends. I've never known a baby suffer more than a shock from it but parents are traumatised! So give her a cuddle then give yourself a break.

If there are no signs of bruising and you are able to comfort and rock your dd back to sleep without difficulty, then I’d put her down to sleep in her cot.
No harm done, just be aware for next time.

They do that. Mine did it twice the other day. I picked him up gave him a cuddle and plonked him back closer to the middle of the bed angled a different way. Guess he was determined to be on the floor though because I went to get a nappy from the other room and the next thing I hear is a thud followed by crying.

He’s fine now.

With my first we had an ambulance out when he fell off the sofa. I told 111 there was a clear fluid coming from his nose (he was crying and in retrospect I’m pretty sure it was snot). He is fine. Exceeds or meets all milestones.

Seriously don’t sweat this stuff. It’s normal. It happens to everyone. You’ll find horror stories online where people’s toddlers launched themselves off the bed and got severe brain damage and it will give you a mistaken impression because it won’t mention the 99.999% of times these things happen where it’s all completely fine.

I didn't realise it was common to leave babies on beds alone. It's not worth the risk and although your baby is ok, I don't understand why you left her unattended

This happens to everyone, usually round about this age. Keep an eye on her, and obviously take her to be checked over if you have any worries, but chances are she'll be absolutely fine. You, on the other hand, probably need a stiff gin!

Don't beat yourself up about it. My son fell off the bed and the sofa as well! I remember crying my eyes out and he was looking at me like nothing happened lol. Your little one will be fine! You're not a terrible parent. Neither of us are perfect! X

@MrsMuddlePluck I am sure she knows that! You don't need to make her feel worse than she already does.

MrsMuddlePluck

I would never ever leave her on a bed on her own. You had a lucky escape but please cuddle her until she's asleep. Then put her in her cot.

Don't feel guilty but don't let it happen again

🙄 fgs

It happens, I know other mums who have had things happen. I havnt yet, but we’re human, your not a bad mum.

Thanks for the reassurance. Horrible feeling and still shaking. DH got such a fright as when he came in the room he could hear her but couldn't see her anywhere as she rolled off the opposite side. She seems totally fine, having a cuddle and she's heading back to sleep now.

@MrsMuddlePluck definitely will not be doing it again. Usually she gets cuddled to sleep and then put on the bed until she's in a deep sleep as she seems to wake as soon as she senses she's in her cot. Not an excuse I know.