Finding weaning so hard

[Mk1234]

Im trying so hard to give him diffrent stuff now tried 1 veg and all that jazz but ive got to the point now where i feel that id rather just feed him whatever were having just so hes eating. I feel that when i do make him his own food he just doesn't eat it so i feel that he is not eating enough not that he eats much of ours. I know at 7 months its just getting them used to it as milk is still their main food source. Husband is bloody useless with weaning just waste of bloody space...does absolutely nothing to help is more of a bleading hinderance and just constantly gives baby milk dispite me telling him to ease off it now. He just gave baby satsumas at dinner time WTF why would you do that!! His reply was well you should have a time table for him i said well i do have a routine which you know about and we've had it for a month. He a complete utter twat that thinks hes always right and needs to have the last say even thoigh most of what he say is useless crap. He is making the baby fall behind. Im stressing about how baby still cant crawl and doesnt even feed properly. Husband couldnt give two flying monkeys. Hes seriously winds me up on purpose and i find it so bloody hard to not say anything.

Things will get easier I’m sure! Your son may not have a huge appetite just yet. Keep trying, one day he may not like something, the next he might. Try and not stress too much as long as he’s growing and happy and healthy! My DD is 9 months now and still isn’t rolling over or crawling, as many other babies I know that aren’t. I’m having a similar issue with DP and routines at the moment however I know that she is still eating and drinking, happy and healthy. I hope things get easier for you

Read up about baby lead weaning and do that but yes weaning is a pita.

I wouldn't worry at all at this stage, even if a crumb of food doesn't enter his belly all day he'll be fine. Health visitor told me it's more about getting used to tastes/textures at this point than actual nurtrion (like you say that's all from the milk right now) don't stress honestly, he'll be fine.

Don't worry, you'll get there. But don't worry about your baby falling behind, they do stuff at their own pace even though that can be really worrying for us!
Remember babies are much better than us at knowing when they are full, so if your LO isn't eating much he probably doesn't need it yet rather than it being a problem with the kind of food. My LO really didn't start to eat proper amounts each meal until maybe 9 months, even though we started just before 6.

Do read up on Baby Lead Weaning though, it's basically what you suggested which is giving the same food as you're having as finger food so they feed themselves. If it hasn't got salt or sugar then it's fine really.
I also found Holly Willoughby's Truely Scrumptious Baby recipe book a great source of ideas.

With your frustration with OH, sounds like it's more than just the weaning causing you irritation? I felt like this stage was really tough on my relationship too, you're working so hard to figure out the right thing and get everything ready and put a routine in place and they just don't seem to get it! Try to keep talking to him and just be open about how stressful you're finding it, and repeat your routine many times until it sticks!

And breathe

What is the problem with the satsuma?
What are you trying to feed your baby now?
Is he not eating it?

I don’t really get what the problem is tbh

I think you are being way too hard on yourself and the baby. To a worrying level. What's wrong with satsumas? You don't need to be making him totally separate food - let him experiment with yours, including fruit. And you should not be panicking about crawling - at 7 months, a lot of children can barely sit up never mind crawling.

I think you need to step back a bit here.

7 months is tiny, don't expect your baby to wean so quickly. One step forward two steps back is what I remember at that age!

One of my kids was very easy to wean, would eat purees food etc. The other was complete different, she would only feed herself and didn't relall show any interest in food until 9 months old. You have plenty of time! Forget about routines and plans for a few weeks and just let your baby explore nibbling on bits of soft fruit and cooked veg. It will all come together eventually!

And crawling at 7 months would be super early! Some babies never crawl.

You sound quite anxious around your baby's "progress" and "falling behind". Why are you so worried about this?

Weaning is a pita! I tried a variety of things but easiest was just a bit of what you're having, obviously being careful with the salt/spices. I used to give as finger foods if we were having something like pasta or roast or blitz it in the blender if it was something sloppy like cottage pie.

Different babies sometimes prefer different textures so try not to be too fixated on any particular method but see what your DC prefers. I had one that only liked pureed food on a spoon - wouldn't eat a sandwich till she was 3 - and one that preferred finger foods. Milk still the most important at 7 months so satsuma for dinner at that age is fine! You could try splitting the solid food around a milk feed, ie give some of the milk so he is not too hungry and frustrated, then try some solid food then offer the rest of the milk.

Fwiw, neither of my DC crawled until 9 months but then both walked at 11 months. Both now bright and able school-aged children, good at gymnastics, so I wouldn't worry about that.

Thank you aĺl for your support and comnents. I feel like im getting so many mixed ideas from family, friends h.v that im getting a overwhelmed by where LO should be right now. I also work in a school so for some reason i think subconsciously im really paranoid about LO hitting milestones. Im not the brightest star in the sky neither is his dad so i just worry about baby struggling, I know that this all sounds really silly, and all children are different. As for the satsuma lol it wasnt his dinner. I finish maternity leave soon and just want to set a routine before i go back to work so his dad will find things easier when hes taking care of baby when im at work, but his dad is just so loosey goosey with everything, ive tried talking to him but he seems to know it all.

I really found it went from this to really going for it by 9m, I know that seems far off now! Handy, effortless things to give on highchair (I used to give ahead of meals while I was heating/cooking/cooling): cucumber and pepper strips (finger size), wedges of avocado, grated cheese/carrots, steamed veg (always had w tub in fridge), boiled egg (ditto). Later chickpeas and kidney beans, great fun and effort to manipulate these successfully! After give what you're giving but do have a meal plan so it's easier for you and you can see intake in terms of fish/red meat etc ie variety.

Contrary to others I loved weaning! The habits above really stood to my two, even when they had off days.

Other things that are handy-oatcake with mashed banana/avocado/tuna/sardines. V easy and handy, oatcake serves as a spoon as such for these.

If you are leaving dp to look after him, you have to let it happen. I prefer a routine and a sense of what will happen in advance. Dh (and his entire family) is simply not built that way. But i trust him to nonetheless care for them and ensure they are fed, even though it isn't done the way I would do it.

You come across sounding very stressed :(
My LO turns 7 months in a couple of days. I found that she was always far more interested in what we were eating than the nice healthy and baby friendly food I had spent a lot of time making for her. So I just started giving her baby friendly food from our plates...
I imagine a lot of people would be very distraught at what she has been eating as some of it is not what I would have thought would be considered to be baby friendly, e.g. pizza... but she eats it or more accurately plays with it and some ends up in her mouth.
Her dinner tonight consisted of some soup, bread, peaches and yogurt... I don't think it matters that much as she is learning about how we all sit down together for meals and gets to try different things.