dummy

[softmusk]

hi am planning to dump the dummies at the end of the month for my 2 dds age 18months and 2.8

i no it going to be a bit of a nightmare to begin with

but how long did it take life to get back to normal for ur family

cheers

oh and how did u do it

I waited till my dd was 2.8 to get rid of the dummy. I could tell she was 'ready' if you know what I mean? She would say things like, 'big girls don't have dummies and I'm a big girl aren't I?' etc. So I knew she was ready.

I told her one Sunday that today is the day the fairies are coming to take your dummies away and give them to the babies. In return, the fairies have said that we can go to Tesco and buy you a new toy.

It really worked. Dd chose a dolly. That night when she was getting tired and wanted her dummy, I reminded her that the dummies were gone now and she was to cuddle dolly. She didn't even cry.

She still thought about her dummies months on, but never got upset for them. Maybe I was just lucky?

Good luck

Sorry that it won't be that easy for your 18m old. If I were you, I'd wait. Though I know it'll be difficult for your eldest to see her sister with a dummy still.

the main reason i want to give up the dummy is because it is really playing there ezema (sorry spelt wrong bad skin)

Ok, if you're sure it's for the best then I would pick a day and stick to it. Throw away ALL your stash of dummies and prepare yourself for 3 nights of hell.

You can probably bribe your eldest, but not your youngest. So you'll just have to tough it out I'm afraid. I bet it'll be sorted after the third night, and she'll go to sleep without it. But 18m olds are pretty persistent.

I would wait for the weather to improve. Then, when you do it, get them out of the house for alot of the day to parks etc. Really tire them out. That'll get them to sleep without hours of fuss.

Can't see a quick fix solution though. I would just really stress that when you decide to do it - do it! Don't cave in after the first night from hell. That will only make it worse the next time you come to do it.

Good luck

It's always easier at Christmas. We told DS Santa gets the dummies to give to the baby reindeer. He asked why and we told him the baby reindeer missed their mummies and daddies at Christmas so if little boys and girls gave them a dummy, they'd be happy. He handed them over, even the secret stashed ones. He was just passed 3 and only had them at night or very upset.

I personally think that 18 months is a bit young to ditch the dummy. I would work on the 2.8 first.

Just start dropping into conversations that dummies aren't allowed in certain places (the play ground, the shops, outside in general). I did this with mine at 2.4 and he really took it on board immediately. Even to the point where he hands me the dummy (at 2.6) when we go out and says 'Keep this safe, mummy. But I won't need it.'

With regard to the 18 mo, I don't think it will present a huge problem. Your 2.8 yo obviously knows he/she is the elder/bigger child, and will see it as a confirmation of seniority.

thanks for the advice i dont think my 18month will be as big a problem as the 2 year old she does seem as attached to it

but hey hoe i will just have to sit out the problems not back down

i do no its for the best i just need to keep telling my self this when they screaming at 2 in the morning

think i will throw them away in a bit in the street and them there no way i can back down in the middle of night

it's hard, it's very hard, but don't wait till Christmas, how could Santa take away the thing you love the most??

Good luck, stick to your guns, it'll be worth it.

thanks

Do they have their dummies in the daytime? If so, dump that first - "dummies only in bed and they stay in bed".

We left ours out for Father Christmas on Christmas Eve so that he could give it to a new baby. Father Christmas then left an 'extra ' present!

my dd2 was putting the whole dummyin her mouth and the other day her mouth was sore so i decided to get rid of dummy i put har a bed that night without the dummy she went straight to sleep couldnt beleive it didnt wake till morn so she hasnt had it since sunday and she is 21 months just go for it i done it this week as my dd1 7 is off this week so i didnt have to do school run its been so easy and she is a child that i thought would of been nightmare good luck

cheers for all the advice has really helped will be getting rid of them at the end of june cus thats when the course i do finish and i dont have any more till sept so the kids will not be a night mare for the staff looking after them and i wont feel guilting about not being there to comfort them if they upset

thought about dumping them in the bin out side toys r us on the way to buy each off them a new toy