Toddler hitting

[SuziMA]

I had my 2nd son 7 weeks ago and since my toddler has started lashing out. My "friend" brought her 1 year old son over and he hit him several times & she's since not been in touch and even actually missed his 2nd birthday when we normally do presents etc I'm upset as thought we were close but she obviously wasn't a friend, which adult spites a child for acting like a child?

But anyway I'm now worried to take him anywhere with other kids or people to visit us until he stops hitting. I've tried everything- ignoring bad behaviour & praising good behaviour, naughty step, taking him away from the situation when he lashes out but nothing is working. How long with this last!! I had my friend over today and he started doing it again.

Maybe he's jealose of the new baby? And being two struggles to express it. I agree though that this needs to be nipped in the bud. I think given his age just consistently being consistent, if he raises his hands take them.gently but firmly in yours and say no, we don't hit. It's not nice. Then once he's calmed down talk it through. It won't happen immediately but over time he's get the message. He's still very little. Maybe also look at spending one to one time with him for a few hours if someone can sit with the baby.

He won't fully understand why mummys attention can't be on him as much right now, or be able to verbalize so a lot of it may be frustration and being two he's still learning how to express big emotions.

I'm sorry to hear that your friend behaved that way. Think your better off without her tbh. You don't need people like that in yours or your babies lives xx