Need advice on child age gaps

[Sammyd009]

Hi all.
So I had my twin girls when I was 16 and yes I know I was very young but they are amazing kids and wouldn't change it for the world. My issue is I'm now 33 they are 17 and off to uni next year , I'm in a new relationship with a man I love to bits and he really wants kids , I'm still not 100% sure on the subject yet but the main reason holding me back is the age gap of my twins and a new baby. So I reckon if we did have a baby together this would be when im around 35-36 which will make my twins 20-21 years old can I really have a baby with a 20 year age gap from its sisters !!! It just doesn't seem right . please be honest as that's what I need here.

Personally, if it was me I would go for it but probably plan to have 2! Your daughters will probably end up a more motherly figure than sisterly, and that's good but I would want a sibling similar age too.

I'm not sure if try for a boy is a joke or not...

Don't be silly, the twins will love the girls! There's fourteen years between me and my sister, and yes, the relationship is more like aunt/niece than sisters but I love her and wouldn't be without her for the world.

If you want another baby age gaps shouldn't matter. And you shouldn't have to deal with sibling jealousy at that age either!

Sorry, don't know why i said 'girls' - thinking of my own pregnancy ... The twins will love the baby (or babies, if you have more than one more)

Thanks for your comments everyone :)
Don't think you can pick girl or boy tho hehehe .
I know if I did have another child my twins won't be super close to the new baby as they would have moved out by then and have there own life's but there will still be that older sister love. I've asked my friends this sane question and all of them said the age gap was to big and even had a few people saying 35-36 is to old to have a baby and that my life will be on hold again another 18 years.
I don't get why people say about putting your life on hold, ive worked since my girls were 1 years old and been on loads of holidays and even taken them travelling with me for a month .
I am scared about being pregnant, I'm that weird person who doesn't enjoy it and it slightly freaks me out knowing there is something growing inside me haha and the idea of giving birth ........... Well won't say my thoughts on that . I had a c section with the twins.
I feel like I need to make a decision and just for it or not as my man really wants a family with me and I do aswel but guess I'm scared and know that people won't agree and everything else

I see no reason not to have another if you want one and your partner does. 35/6 is not too old for a baby these days. I didn't have my first till 32 and now 34 with my second. Don't worry about what anyone thinks, it's about your family not theirs.

cathyknots that is absolute bollocks.
You can’t ‘try for a boy’. Its rubbish. Plus who says she wants a boy?!

Ps in response to the OP... if you want more children then go for it! You’re still young. My cousin is currently pregnant with her 2nd... her 1st is 22. She’s really excited to have a new sibling!

If it helps, my friend’s mum had a suprise pregnancy in her early 40s. There’s a 21 year age gap between the 2 DC. Completely different sibling relationship than if it had been 2 years, but they’re close in a different way. Oh and I’m pregnant at 37 so hope 35/36 isn’t too old! Good luck with whatever you decide either way.

Have you asked your twins how they'd feel if you had another? What do they think?

Your not to old to have a child, I'm only a year younger and have 1yo and expecting me 2nd. Also your live isn't on hold your still living it just with an person to love.
If you want another baby go for it

Go for it! Your not old AT ALL.

Also I tried that Chinese calculator for my little girl who's now 6mo and it was WRONG. Don't listen to that nonsense

You’re definitely not too old, and they’ll have a different sort of relationship but all relationships are different. I would echo a PP and say think about having two though, if that’s an option, so you won’t have one on their own, but two sets almost. Go for it!

Don't let something as silly as an age gap stop you, if that's what you want, it's more common now anyway and as PP said you are still young! I was 34 when I had my first DD so I obviously don't think it's too old!

Ignore your friends and just do what is right for you and your lovely partner.

It could be a new, if somewhat unexpected, wonderful chapter in your life!

Best of luck!

I don't think it matters. If anything, it's becoming more common as people separate and meet new parents and increasing numbers of women having babies well into their 40's now.

SIL has 16 years between her eldest and youngest.

There is a boy starting nursery with my youngest soon. His older sister is about 19/20 years older than him and his nephew is in the year above him at school . If anything, everyone thinks it's cute.

I can't thank you all enough for all your comments and advice its so lovely and REALLY helpful :)
I meant to be having a coil fitted next month as I have problems with my period and the coil will stop all the issues but I'm noe thinking its not a good idea as the doc told me it can be harder to get pregnant after you have it removed . I'm still confused as I do want to have another child , the past few months its been something stuck in my mind but the cons start sneaking in and worrying me