It's dangerous

[Genidef]

This is the latest from DD this am. She will go to the "toilet-loo" during the day when we say: What about it, do you need a tinkle. She doesn't really TELL us although they say she does at the nursery and she gets through preschool sessions dry.

At times, though, she objects strenuously to it - "NO NO NO NEVER use the toilet-loo, never use potty!" Threw the training seat off the loo this morning, and slammed the door, in a huge strop. "It's dangerous, my bottom's too little."

We've only managed one poo in three weeks on the potty. she wears a nappy at night and during the naps, she does it then.

She is 2.6. Do you think she's just not really ready? Maybe we should give it a rest for a bit! The reason I say this, is I really don't want to upset her by encouraging her to go. Last night she got into the toy box and narrowly missed doing her business there, in privacy. She just won't tell us she needs it.

It's all very strange because she was telling us BEFORE she started "Mommy change nappy." Which is why we thought she was ready.

Oh leave it, it sounds very stressful. Try again in 6 weeks, that's a long time at this age

You may be right. I'm just wondering if it defo wouldn't be more confusing to suddenly stop doing it again?

No, this thing about "be consistent at all costs" is a load of bollocks IMO, after all, what we most want from our children is that they become flexible and reasonable people, not stubborn inflexible swine! I think pushing on, even though she is scared and clearly telling you she doesn't want to do it, would be confusing and upsetting for her.

yes I found "my bottom's too little" very cute as well

It is funny actually - she's a bit of a drama queen at times, it has to be said. Which is why it makes it difficult for me to really decide in my own mind what's going on here!!

you may want to look at different seats, different potties etc, though

we had no luck with ds until we found a seat that fitted well, with handles, and that most importantly was soft and comfy enough for the princely bottom

plus waiting till he was 3 helped a LOT

well whatever is going on, she doesn't want to do it and you will have a fight on youe hands if you persevere now IMO

I would leave it and come back to it

does it matter if she is still in nappies for a bit longer?

F&Z
I know what you mean about encouraging flexibility. Believe me, we aren't treating this like an army exercise - we're often quite the reverse.in our case with some things we've done, i've worried about being all over the place at times which can be confusing.

Aw, life is confusing. The sooner they get used to that idea the better IMO