Name change as may be identifying.
We are having terrible trouble with our 5 year olds behavior.
Bit of background, there has been a lot of change in the past year so may be a contributing factor.
We have moved house- ten minute walk from where we lived so still beside friends and family.
I have a 5 month old and went through hg when pregnant so was not consistent at all with dd.
Dd absolutely adores her little sister but does not leave her alone for a minute. I'm finding it increasingly difficult as I'm always giving out to dd telling her to leave the baby alone. She's rough with her but does not mean to be, acts silly around her which always ends in disaster.
She has started school this year and is like a different child there, top of the class, sociable,polite and very hardworking.
We have always found dd hyper and is on the go all day always needing to be entertained , this was no problem as I just had her and I teach 6 year olds so finish early and was always available for her.
My husband - her father - has also always been very hands on.
Obviously since the baby her behavior has gone down hill and just does not listen. She slams doors , whines, shouts if she doesn't get her way.
She will not feed herself and takes an hour in the morning with me coaxing her to eat her breakfast.
I spend time every day with her just us when I can through the day, we go out for lunch ( with baby) I still bring her to the playground and she still has plsydates so although I've much less one to one time with her I'm doing my best.
I find myself being actually quite mean to her in the way I speak to her as nothing is getting through.
I've taken toys away, stopped treats but nothing is working, she just wil not listen.
I put her to bed at 6.30 tonight without a story which in all her 5 years I have never done and she has come out of her room I'd say about 20 times.
What can I do? Her teacher says there's no problems at school so it's just at home,
I've told her I'm putting all her toys in black bags tomorrow and she has to earn them all back. Is this too much of a punishment?
I've also tried "love bombing" but made no difference.
Sorry this is so long but can anyone shed some light? Anything I can do to help her listen to me and for me to stop nagging her constantly?