DD1 wacking other children - Help!

[bellarosa]

Hiya, I'm sure theres lots of great advise out there for this situation so please offer all ideas!

My DD1 is 27 months old and is going through a really bad patch of pushing/ scratching/ hitting/ kicking (you get the idea) every other child within reach.
Initially it was because she wanted something they had but it has progressed to completly unreasonable violence towards all other children her age or younger/ smaller.

I have tried to be calm and reason with her, removing her from the situation, she very rarely apologises and if she does she will go and do it again 5 mins later.

I find it really disturbing to see her going through this and i want to help her deal with the feelings she's having but i am lost as to what to do. It is also becoming embarrising and so I'm starting to take her to groups less and less.

She has a 10 mnth old sister and i'm wondering if it could be part of her way of dealing with the change in our family dynamic.

Any ideas?!

IME she's doing it to get your attention.

How much time do you spend with her- I know it's hard with a 10m old as well but can you try and give her more attention. You also need to not give her attention when she's bad- If poss ignore her and make a fuss of the other child.

It's soooo hard and you have my sympathies. If its any consolation she will grow out of it

Yes i agree i think it is partly attention seeking, and recently i've lost my rag a bit with her about it,and therefor reinforced the fact that if she plays up she'll get my attention and it is obvious that she's doing it because she wants more from me. I am a full time stay at home mum, so does have me all day but i am very split between giving her my attention and a very frustrated 10 mnth old who cant crawl yet... i'll try to keep ignoring the bad and highlighting the good...

She is very tall and big for her age and she looks about 3.5 so i think that i see her acting like a young toddler but expect her to act older because she looks it and is very confident verbally etc. other people also have less patience with her because of this and it is hard to keep remembering that she's only just out of babyhood.

Have a read of this therules

It's basic and simple and reinforces things you already know but it does reinforce them