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Absent father to my son driving me crazy

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Usernamehere · 28/06/2018 07:35

So basically I got with my child's father when I was 16. I had my son at 17. We was together for 2 years until he had an affair and disappeared leaving me with an autistic 2 year old to look after and eventually ended up homeless because I couldn't pay the rent on my own. All his family was involved up until we split when they all ignored my son and left him out of the family. I moved back to my home town with my family and my son is nearly 8 now so it's been a few years. He never sees my son or asks about him. I hear hes calling me to people in the pubs on the weekend while I'm at home with our son. So basically this month my child's father who isn't from the same town as me decided to start going to all the pubs 5 minutes from where I live. Calling me to anyone who will listen. So now I'm angry that he's got the nerve to come back to my home town where I'm raising our son with no regard for his child whatsoever. My son is nearly 8 now, and I have to walk past these pubs taking my son to school. So what happens if my son sees him what do i tell him? Ino I can't control where my ex goes what he says or anything but boy am I angry. It's took me everything to get myself where I am now with my son n I feel like he's ruining my fresh start. Out of everywhere in the world he can go n he chooses the pubs on my doorstep. He can travel to my town to go pub but can't knock on the door to see his child. Anyone else had This? And how do I just ignore it. Emotionally finding it hard he can reject my beautiful amazing son for no reason other than he's own selfishness. I just need to know I can get through this. What a bastard tho.

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Doyoumind · 28/06/2018 07:42

If you let it get to you, he's getting what he wants. Ignore.

If he can't be bothered he's better out of your lives. Forget he exists.

Why would you say anything to your son? Is he likely to come along and say "Hi, I'm your dad who's not given a shit for 6 years"? If you did bump into him I think he would end up feeling worse than you.

Singlenotsingle · 28/06/2018 07:45

Would your son even recognise him?

llangennith · 28/06/2018 07:56

Do you really think this person would enrich your DS’s life? You sound as though you want him to get involved with your DS and I know I certainly wouldn’t want that if I was in your situation. As a pp said, ignore him, ignore everything to do with him and carry on with your life.

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Usernamehere · 28/06/2018 09:02

Thanks for your replies I know you are all right and all I can do is ignore. I'm not sure if my son would recognise him he probably wouldn't though. Fustrating as I never thought I would have the problem of him being near my house etc as we from different towns. Thanks all for your replies time to be a strong mummy again and keep moving forward x

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