Hi all😍 Would massively appreciate some advice here..please let me explain:
Baby is 6 months. Her Dad & I are not together.
We split up when baby was 10 weeks: domestic abuse, him with a drink problem (he denies all of it), he tried to abduct baby, police involvement to assist me etc etc ( we didn't live together before baby was born so didn't know his behaviour to this extent).
He had access after our split but constant issues about baby's welfare:
Feeding her only 150 ml of milk in 9 hours?!
Marks on her head (think he had banged her head in the car).
Going out drinking when he had access and leaving her with his parents (I can't prove this but know it happened).
His parents attempting to wean baby behind my back at 3 1/2 months- baby was ill on 2 occasions after return until he finally admitted it.
I feared for baby's welfare & stipulated his access needed to be supervised after legal advice.
He declined supervised access. Then he instigated Mediation.
Then he cancelled it.
Then he asked for access only in his own town (so he doesn't have to pay £5.60 bridge toll).
I arranged that, I would be prepared to pay the travel (17 miles) for him to see baby. (He is able to afford this easily and has a car).
He didn't want to pay maintenance so I contacted CSA. Now he pays it.
Then he contacts the initial Supervised centre again that I first contacted. Said he wants to see his baby. They contact me but, alas, he then declines (AGAIN).
Even I am getting bored now😩
He reinstates Mediation ( after my solicitor responded to his solicitor's letter saying he wants weekend access or else court proceedings).
We have Mediation next week. I am dreading it. He is controlling and does not put his baby first (hasn't seen baby for 3 months).
My solicitor doesn't really speculate on what is 'reasonable access.'
Sorry for this 'essay' but would anyone know what is reasonable here? I know baby has a right to see dad but I genuinely fear for baby's safety.
Many thanks xx