Potty Training problems.

[Charleesunnysunsun]

DS1 is 2.8 and we are having a few Potty Training problems so if anyone can help or give suggestions/advice it would be much appreciated. We have the half term coming up so i want to really crack on with it.

He is fine at home with NO pants on he will go to the potty for wees and poos. I do have to ask him fequently if he needs to go but he will often tell me.

If i put pants on him he will just wet himself or poo himself if i don't prompt him to use the potty, i think he feels something aganst his bits and thinks its the same as a nappy so feels fine going in them.

If were out or he is at playschool he is a nightmare he will just have accident after accident untill the playschool will give in and put him in a nappy.

I try to to make a big deal out of it in front of him and give him huge ammounts of praise when he uses the potty, but yesterday at playschool they came into the aiting area hen he had finished and very loudly said, 'We had to put a nappy on because DS wouldn't stop filling his pants.'

I kno DS isn't old enough to get embarrased about things like that but i am and he picked uo in it and started crying ans saying 'he had pooed his pants'
I had a word and asked them not to announce it in futuer and tell me quietly.

He is the only one at playschool still in nappies which i know shouldn't matter but i feel bad. He has had medical problems which means he somedays cant control his bowels as much as other kids but as long as his medication level is ok he's fine.

I guess i just ddon't know what the next step is, do i carry on just prompting him to use the potty at home then start on outside or what?

Hi - hmm sounds difficult. I would suggest that he is being potty trained too early, especially if he has had medical problems. I read somewhere that boys potty trained on average 3 to 3.5 yrs so I really would not worry and maybe leave it a while (do not get into the peer pressure thing at nursery). Will stop the pressure on both of you and maybe start again in another 6 mths or so? Hopefully other mums of boys may help you, I have 2 DD's so a little difference but equally challenging. Good luck!

I would agree, boys do tend to be a bit later. ds1 was very slow to learn, particularly poos, he would take himself off into a corner and do it in underpants then deny it vehemently!! was very unhappy using potty, and I blamed my mum who was obsessed with getting him to sit on it at 6 months!!

In the end I could only get him to sit on potty if sat in front of a video in living room, only a problem if we had visitors.

He was slower than all my friends kids but in the end I just put him back in nappies and tried again in 6 months, it came a lot quicker then, not perfect but he got it in the end and went to school with no problems.

Hi, this is my very first post on Mumsnetter! woot!

Anyway, back on topic....

Charleesunnysunsun, I too have had potty training nightmares with my DS. We're a bit further on than you now but I symathise with you and can only advise you to keep doing what your doing and stick with it. I've come to realise with some children it is just a question of time. They will do it when they are ready. Despite many different methods, incentive schemes etc I truley believe my DS just did it when he was ready and nothing I could have done would have changed that.

Have you tried a star chart? a star for every deposit on the potty and a treat for every 10 stars. I did find that letting my DS go with my friend when she took her son to the toilet helped a bit. He would come back saying 'James is a big boy, he wee'd on the toilet, I'll be a big boy tomorrow mummy and wee on the toilet'- so it showed he was starting to think about it)

In fact, not long after his 3rd birthday, he just go up one day and decided he was going to do it and that was that. Well, kind of....

I do still have a problem with him and in my opinion its a big one and I just can't seem to find any solution to it so I'm hoping someone on here might have some advise.....

Now 3.5, when it comes to weeing he's perfect. He takes himself to the toilet for wee's, stands like daddy, lowers seat afterwards (not quite like daddy ) flushes and washes hands all by himself and very proud of it he is too. My problem is getting him to poo on the toilet, or even a potty. He just won't do it. He has always been a 'hider' would run off to poo when he wore nappies, would hide under tables, behind doors etc and now he just waits until he goes to bed and he does it in his sleep.

I've spoken to my health visitor who has just told me to ride it out and until his bowel routine brings him back to day time, she's told me there is nothing I can do. Occaisionally he does need to go during the day but it is so rare it doesn't really give me long enough to do any sort of incentive scheme like a star chart etc.

Any suggestions?

Hi there I am a newcomer too.
Am feeling thoroughly exhausted from trying to potty train DD aged 2.6. She ticks all the 'are you ready' boxes but this is the 3rd time we have tried and the same thing happens - she is not too bad with weeing and can often get one in the potty - but she is incredibly anxious about letting go - particularly poos. She 'holds herself' and does lots of jiggling and the last few evenings has become very distressed because she need a poo but can't let go. Tonight I gave in and put her in a napppy - but she still cried and wouldn't do a poo. I am really worried about her becoming overly stressed but feel like we will have to ride it out as she will always react this way. Has anyone been in similar situation. Would really appreciate advice.