Need advice - 3yr old messed in his bedroom! Bit graphic I'm afraid!!

[notadrop]

First time on mumsnet hoping for some good advice! We've been toilet training for 4 weeks and don't seem to be getting anywhere. Put DS2 up for his nap today thought he was asleep but 30 mins later heard him. Scene of devastation! Poo smeared all over his window, bed and wall!!!!Didn't react well and screamed. Can only think he's reacting to new baby in house. Help!!!

my DS2 did something similar on the landing wall once but it soon passed.

Hope you get somemore advice. could be new baby. DS1 was almost 3 when DS2 was born and he stuttered but they all react differently

Hi notadrop! Sorry, I don't know what I'd do. How old is DS2? My friend's little boy used to do this but eventually grew out of it.

My only reaction if you have a newborn as well is give up!It really isn't the end of the world I stressed for weeks with ds1 and it really came between us.This is one of the few parts of his lifwe that only he can control,trust me you will not be able to force him he has to want to do it,if he doesn't then just give up for a bit ,leave the potty out and just let him come to it in his own time .Life is too short,not many 5 year olds start school in nappies!

Also remember that poo may be revolting to you but does he understand this,to him it's just something interesting that came out of him,be careful about telling him it is revolting as that can be frightening and even cause constipation problems.

hiya, i also have a new baby & the other morning we woke up 2 find DS2 had taken nappy off & decided 2 poo on the floor then pick it up & wipe it everywhere, it was everywhere & took ages 2 clean.
i think he is a little confused as all day he has no nappy on but then has 2 have 1 on 4 bed so im not sure if he did it thinking he was supposed 2 take his nappy off.
luckily he hasnt done it since so it might not last long.

If you've been trying for 4 weeks and not cracked it then I would definitely give up for now and try again in a little while. YOu're putting yourself under a lot of pressure as well aren't you which no doubt you can do without with a new baby to content with as well.

May I tell you what happened to us? We started trying when DS was 2 and a half but gave up quite quickly (DS and I were coping but DH was having a hard time dealing with the 'accidents'.
We tried again about 2 months later and I'm not meaning to be showing off (honestly) but DS sussed it in 1 day. Sure we had accidents occasionally but they were just that, very occasionally, and I think it was nothing to do with my brilliant parenting skills (ha ha) and all to do with him just being ready.
Good luck whatever you decide to do.

I would also say give it a rest for a while. DSs nursery kept trying to push him into potty training before I thought he was ready. Eventually he did take to it without any real fuss at all - but it was when he was ready !

I may come to wish I hadn't admitted to this one. I was prone to 'poo smearing' when I was a small child. My mother would often have to put me in the bath fully clothed!

I can asure you that I am now fully potty trained! With no bowel probelms. I went on to have a quite normal childhood, going on to do well in school and even at university!

It is a pain I am sure, but don't worry about it!