Would you let your child

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Would you let your 9 year old child go to a friends house for a couple of hrs to play if you only knew the mother but not her new partner?

Yes of course.

Yes

Yes.

Bump

Yes

Do you have concerns about the partner? If so, no. But otherwise, I’d send my child yes.

Well context needed.

Will mum be there?
Is this one in a long line of casual and unsuitable men who have form for being dikcs?
Does DC have anxiety around strangers?

Yes (unless there's going to be a huge drip feed that he's just been released from jail for torturing a child or something)

Of course
I don’t need to vet the whole family before a play date

Yup.

I would and have but I must admit I have turned down sleepovers a couple of times where there would be an adult male in the house whom we didn’t know well. Play dates, cos they are short and it’s daytime, seem safe, perhaps this is naive. Is there something specific worrying you, OP? Def get the comment that it’s more unsettling if this partner is one of a stream of seemingly unsuitable blokes.

Not meaning to drip feed at all.
Son is happy to go to play date.
New partner is a stable relationship.
Not been a string of new fellas.
I have not met her partner.
Wondered if parents would be happy with this.
I suffer with anxiety and find it very difficult not to be too over protective and make rational decisions based on this.
Really appreciate all advice on this dilemma for me

Then yes

Yes I would.