Our ds1 is now 4 1/2 over last 12 months hes got progressively more clingy to dh. He will cling on to him and climb up on him shreaking i want you daddy. Usually if he doesnt want to do something like clean teeth or eat dinner. Its wearing dh down as he gets home from work and ds1 is clingy and moaning at him straight away (he will have been fine with me and well behaved for the previous hour). Bed times can be a nightmare as only daddy can put him to bed or we get another melt down. This is a pain as we want dh to try and put youngest ds to bed as we are trying to transition him to his own bed when he has co-slept with me for last year and he isnt taking to me putting him in his own bed very well but he will go in for dh. DS1 also started saying he hates me yet this morning was all kisses and cuddles.
We think it may have started due to issues with another little boy at nursey who has now been diagnosed autistic. The staff are good now this has been diagnosed but while this was happening he upset most of the others in preschool and although we now see no major issues (him coming home scratched or bruised) he still crys every morning about not wanting to go because this other boy will be there. More recently any issues ds have mentiond have been minor such as snatching. We will be moving him to a different nursery in july due to me returning to work to reduce mine and kids commute but nit sure this will help with the clingyness at home. So thats the clingy issue and we dont really know what to do about it. We have an older dd too and she is well behaved but feel so guilty as she gets so little space with us. We just need to get him to stop focusing so much on dh (he will even sit outside loo if dh is in crying he needs him). He seems to go into meltdown so easily...
we have always had issues with him eating but hes now not putting on weight and hes too tall for his current (rear facing car seat). We have tried all sorts with him. Hes not a fussy eatet as he will eat anything if you can actually get him eating.... dh trys to push him to eat every meal but i think he might be using it to get his attention. He eats better when dh not about but isnt consistent. Tried different plates, him choosing meals, helping cook and non of it seems to help. He is on reflux medicine which helps a bit but hes still not putting on weight he just doesnt seem to want to eat. His 2 year old brother is only 2kg lighter than him 😐 hes so skinny.