How do you ladies do it?!

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I have a friend, mum of 4, who looks completely amazing all the time! And I see so many mums who look glam and slim and have their shit together.
I have one DS and I look like tripe all the time. I have crap eyebrows, crap hair, I don’t know how to do make up properly (but something is better than none!). I’m 5 foot 1 and a bit round and it just makes me feel like actual rubbish.

How do you women do it? Please tell me so I can find the time and energy to make myself look nice!! I’m 4 and a half months pregnant so this probably doesn’t help matters right now.

I just can’t find the time to straighten my hair every day and sort out my brows and put my make up on, my 15 month old DS screams when you leave him and won’t be entertained by anything else if I want to sort myself out.

I don’t know, maybe I’m just too pessimistic and have let myself go and looking for excuses? I just wish I looked like one of the ‘yummy mummies’ I see all the time!

I think i spent the first year of my child's life permanently with fluffy hair, panda eyes and crumpled clothes. I couldn't understand how other mums looked remotely well put together or how they found the time. But I did reach a point when I couldn't bear to look in the mirror anymore, and felt I needed to get back to my old self. Didn't really find the time to sort my hair out AND put make up on on the same day, but doing at least one of them made me feel a bit more like a human being. If it's important to you to make an effort with your appearance and makes you feel good about yourself then it's worth trying to squeeze in some time to sit in front of the mirror if you can. But if you only feel you should be doing it because you're comparing yourself to other mums, then it's not worth it. Better to spend what little spare time you might have doing something that makes you feel good about yourself, whatever that may be.

Thank you! It’s a mix of not wanting to look like a scruffy mum as I don’t want people to think I’m a scruff (I’m not) but also just that I feel better a bit more done up. I was never glamorous before having my son but just be nice to look more presentable and less crap.

Thank you for replying x

Money.
Money for Botox, nice clothes, personal trainer, healthy food, childcare, hair extensions, eyelash extensions, eyebrow threading, weekly blowdrys, full head highlights. It all costs money.

I always manage to put on my makeup, takes about 7 min. I think you just need to get into the habit of carving out the time. I used to do mine at the breakfast table whilst chewing my muesli! Would that work - I guess your 15mo can feed himself?

I find a bit of fake tan on your face helps you look less tired and means you need less makeup. I really like the Clarins drops that you mix with moisturiser as you can customize it so you just have a bit of colour.

For quick makeup I think it's best to work out what makes the most difference to making you look better. For me that's putting some colour on my brows and blusher. Some women look great with a bright lipstick and no mascara.

I don't really bother with my hair. But since having kids I only wash it every 3 days - I think your hair gets used to it. That way I have a bit of time to run my straighteners through it once per wash. I just do the front sections!

As soon as the kids are in bed I go and take off my makeup and spend a few minute sorting out my brows or using the Clarins drops etc. A few minutes of maintenance every day really helps. If you leave it until you've tidied up etc it'll never get done!