Broody people- does it stop without having a baby?

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I feel like ive been broody all my life. I have two brilliant DC and no plans at all to have any more. Circumstances are all wrong and will be for the foreseeable. I thought the broodiness would go after second DC. It never has. I’m enjoying the age my Dc are at now and the fact I have more time for myself now they’re older and still I find myself yearning for another. Will I always be like this? Or does it eventually go?

Still broody at 46 and after many many dc.

It did for me but I knew that I could have one later so that might have been why.

Eek! How many april??

I spend a lot of time with other people's children. I love Children. I keep waiting to come across one that puts me off kids for life. It hasn’t happened yet.

Do you think it’s maybe a case of wanting what I can’t have bertie?

My DD is 5 months old and I'm really broody now! Have been since she was about a month old. 😬

Yes, it does. It is possible to ride it out, I've done it and now I'm glad I didn't have more than I can realistically cope with.

A for effort april*!! Christ. 11!

I definitely wouldn’t have more at this stage. Maybe if circumstances changed in a few years but the clock is ticking tbh. I can’t see it being a good decision so wouldn’t do it. But the want is there.

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I could have written this myself.

It does go, but it takes a while.

I was broody for a good 5/6 years after dd2 was born, not helped by an accidentally pregnancy and a miscarriage at 14 weeks. It almost split me and dh up because I was so desperate for another baby and he was adamant we couldn't. Dd2 is now 8 and I'm happy with the 2 I've got, I would be horrified to fall pregnant now, going back to nappies and sleepless nights would be awful. I can even cuddle friends' babies without feeling jealous!

So yes, you can ride out the broodiness, but it may well take a few years before you're properly past it. It helps if you've got something else to focus on as well, like a relatively demanding job, or an interesting hobby, studying, volunteering, etc. (If any of that is possible)

I had absolutely no desire to have another child until about 6 months ago (ds2 was a nightmare baby so it put me off) now ds2 is going to school and I am so broody!

It stopped for me. I had my children close together in my twenties with a view that once they started school I would have two more. By the time that came around I just did not want any more and have never been broody since. My friend said as I approached 40 I would get broody again as it is like a ‘last chance’. Didn’t happen though, there are far more exciting things in my life than babies (although I absolutely loved it at the time)

I don't think it's quite wanting what you can't have. For me I was broody when my D'S was little enough that a sibling would have been really close and great for him. It wasn't appropriate because my relationship was crap and then we broke up and then I was in a new relationship.

When the age gap got big enough that it would have been starting again I stopped being broody for a bit. Then DH and I discussed having DC and I got broody once again.

So for me it was more the idea of having siblings than a baby as such. So once that opportunity passed, it went away. It will be interesting to see if it starts again.

It helps if you've got something else to focus on as well, like a relatively demanding job, or an interesting hobby, studying, volunteering, etc. (If any of that is possible)

My youngest is 9 so I’m really trying to focus on the fact that in a couple of years he won’t need babysat if I want to go to a hobby class in the evening and I can increase my working hours as Wont be paying for childcare. Then a few years after that i’ll be so used to my freedom I will be horrified at the thought of starting all over again with a baby. Right?

It's weird, in my heart and head, I definitely don't want another, but a part of me still wonders about one more child.

It would suck! But my biology is strong.

Wondering the same. Dd2 is 5 months and alternating between definitely wanting another and probably not.

38 so time is a big factor. If I was 5 years younger I'd happily wait a bit to try.

I'm thinking now that if the desire is there then go for it.

If I was 100% no I wouldn't be questioning that.

I was massively broody a couple of years ago and if we won the lottery we'd have a child but it's definitely gone away. So many things are against it and as a same sex couple it's not going to happen by accident. My DW doesn't want children (initially did) and my love for her is stronger than my desire for children.
In my late teens/Early 20s I didn't want children to the extent I wanted my tubes tied so I've been all over the place really. Feel settled in our decision though now.

‘Borrowing’ a toddler* at 5am usually cures it for me id forgotten how hard work it is.

*my nephew, when I visit and try to give my DSis & BIL a break

I really really really want another baby.

Another child, not so sure.

Just can't get past the womb twanging feeling when I see a little one.

We have two beautiful Dds and I'm 40 this year. Next year our donor sperm samples expire as they've had their ten years. I have to decide whether or not to get rid now or to string it out another year and pay hundreds of pounds in storage fees for essentially nothing as we are so unlikely to use them (barring a huge change in circumstances like a lottery win).

I just am so tempted to try one more time.

I am horrified at the prospect of doing it all again. Really, really don't want another. I think I'd cry I find myself pregnant.

Yet I'm still broody! I feel teary and full of longing looking at their newborn photos, and actually feel jealous at the sight of a pregnant woman. No idea what is the matter with me!

There’s certainly no logic to it. I’m 48 now so almost certainly would not be able to conceive again. It felt odd and sometimes quite sad passing my mid-forties and realising that, but actually quite peaceful once I’d got my head round that idea and now it is too late for me. I do suspect some of the feeling is a biological ‘last chance’ urge to procreate driven by hormones in the peri-menopause.

The broody feeling didn't go for me, I wanted another from when ds1 was a few months old. I just had this strong feeling that my family wasn't complete. Due to circumstance ds2 wasn't born till 5 years later but the broody feeling left and I felt like my baby days were finished, in a good way. Now ds2 is due to start school in September and I have a new partner and I'm feeling 60/40 in favour of having more children! But I also know that it's a baby I'm feeling broody over, when I think about having more kids I think 'maybe not'

I'm glad people say the feeling goes though, it's so hard when you feel like that.

april I can't imagine having 11! 2 more would be my absolute tops. How do you keep up with the amount of clothes and bedding washing there must be?

I foster babies. That fulfills my constant broodiness!