Hi
I need a good vent and feel rather upset/annoyed at the moment. To cut a long story short me and my sons father split before they were 2 years old (twins). They are now 11 years old and have never really enjoyed going to their fathers house. Always kicked up a bit of a fuss about having to go. For years Iv encouraged them and told them it's important to go and see him etc etc
But for a few months now they have been coming home telling me how dirty his house is and that they can't walk on the floor in their bedroom. The kitchen is full of moulder cups and dishes and they have had to eat off serviettes before now because there is no clean dishes. They also have to sit on a dirty floor to eat as the kitchen table is full of crap. They have also been coming home with bites for a while. I brought the bites up to him a few months ago and sent him pictures. He tried to say it wasn't from his house but I politely told him to check for bed bugs etc. As it's happening too often.
The boys have got that fed up of it that they took pictures on their phone to show me the state of the house and I was horrified. No bedding on their beds, no walking space on the bedroom floor or landing. Dirty underwear all over the bathroom floor. The kitchen floor is full of dirty clothes. Wrappers. Kitchen tops has no space on as there is so much junk in there. And the living room is no better. I asked their father to sort the house out a month ago as it was upsetting the boys being there in that environment. I was very polite about it giving him the opportunity to sort his house out. Bearing in mind there is two other children living there too . A month later it hasn't changed and I messaged him on Wednesday telling him the boys didn't want to stay there anymore because they don't want to be in that environment. I said it was their decision not mine and I had to respect their wishes. He usually has them for tea on a Wednesday and I havnt has a reply back from him. I'm pretty sure I'm not being unreasonable and I'm more annoyed regardless of how embarrassed he is that he hasn't even replied back to acknowledge that there is a problem that needs addressing. For him and the boys sake. Have I done the right thing?