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DD (2.5) has turned into Hell Child

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SpawnChorus · 21/05/2007 09:19

I am seriously at the end of my tether. DD's behaviour has been abominable for the last week or so. She's just got over a nasty virus (which I now have). Not sure if that's connected.

Anyway she will not stop hitting, kicking and pushing DS (9 months) over. It is farking incessant. He's at the 'cruising' stage, so if she pushes him he usually falls over and bangs his head, then she laughs at him crying which makes my blood boil.

Anyway, I've been trying the usual successful method if giving her as little attention as poss when she's doing it, and putting her out in the hallway to calm down for a couple of minutes. She ends up opening the door to another room (I can't lock them or anything) and she is completely unbovvered by the whole process. Treats it like a game. She'll say copious grinning 'sorry's and then will within seconds resume brother-bashing.

She is also spitting as a sign of protest...e.g. if I put her in her highchair to keep her out of kicking distance of DS while I'm cooking or whatever, she'll start gobbing on the floor.

Does anyone have any suggestions??? I'm open to anything...reward charts...exorcisms....

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HuwEdwards · 21/05/2007 09:21

sorry no advice, but exorcisms lolol!!!!

Cod has a thread going about dealing with difficult behaviour she might be of more help.

fryalot · 21/05/2007 09:23

absolutely no advice whatsoever I'm afraid, but I have two a little bit older than yours, and I can tell you that it doesn't last forever, and in a few months they will be playing together like little angels, with only a few brief spats of brother-bashing.

SpawnChorus · 21/05/2007 09:38

No no no!! They are totally the wrong answers!!! You have to come up with a foolproof plan and moneyback guarantee! Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh!

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fryalot · 21/05/2007 09:40

foolproof plan and moneyback guarantee

SpawnChorus · 21/05/2007 09:41

lololololol!!

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BibiThree · 21/05/2007 09:46

Carry on with the ignoring tactic as much as is possible and start "punishments" for bad behviour. DD gets warned about throwing toys, which sometimes she does, making sure we're watching first before clattering them across the room to get a reaction. She gets told we don't throw toys and I explain why, and if she does it again, it will be taken away for the rest of the day.

Just be consistent and praise everything good, helpful, quiet, non-bashing she does.

HonoriaGlossop · 21/05/2007 10:36

I think you have to let some of it not bother you. It doesn't matter if she opens other doors and is unbothered by the process of being put out to calm down.

Think of it as giving YOU the time without her in your face for YOU to calm down. It doesn't matter at all whether she is visibly upset or feels 'dealt with'. Don't expect a sorry from her, then you can't be annoyed by her obvious grinning insincerity!

Could you use a playpen for your ds rather than a highchair for your dd when she needs to be out of reach of him when you're cooking? Put lots of toys in the playpen for ds, and he can play while your dd is free and doesn't feel angry because she's been imprisoned in the highchair!

SpawnChorus · 21/05/2007 12:14

Thanks HG and BT.

HG - yes I particularly like what you say about the calming down time being more for me!

Play pen not an option (not enough space), but I can (and do) put DS in his highchair as well as / instead of DD. If she starts spitting I will just blank it. I think I was maybe giving her too much attention by telling her not to. She'll get bored of it, right?

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