I am so cross at my daughter's ex..

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in fact I am 'tamping' as they say round here.

He put a post on his FB, about transgender people, which was bound to upset some people, offensive stuff. So my 'live and let live' daughter put some comment like 'it's 2018 you know'.
Then he puts the comment 'fuck off you loose Polish cunt' (her dad is Polish and she has a Polish surname).

the reason why they finished , from my view, is that he refused to use a condom, she had a pregnancy scare which his parents found out about first, he dumped her. At the time, she was gutted. I know how upset she was because I had to comfort her....

He blocked my FB around that time. I have an emergency account that I use :) so I went on that, and saw all the comments...what really riled me is that his friends and new gf had put laughing faces etc.

I was so angry that I told him to take it down. He said 'fuck you'.

OMG I am so glad that she and this waste of space have finished.

I have screenshotted it all. I am still angry now. It was over 2 years ago ffs.

Back then, his parents used to look down their noses at me, a bit, (although his mother is a good woman) - being a poor single mother n a crummy house with depression, unruly kids etc.

At least neither of my children would act like that..

What should I do next? nothing>?

Just block him, both of you. He is clearly an idiot but your daughter knew this when she commented on his status.

Well if he was in certain professions he could be reprimanded and/ or fined over such posts. However he is 18. He should be careful though as future employers may review social media accounts.

Do nothing. Ignore. He wants a reaction I expect.

Don't do anything else as he isn't worth your energy. It's just his opinion not fact. I'm exactly the same if anyone says something or does something I don't like to my dcs. I never forget or forgive. Even thinking about it is reminding me about incidents and giving me the rage. Although I don't waste my time on retribution. But there's some people/kids out there who I would never have in my house!
Just remember it's not fact, it's just his stupid, twattish opinion.

LEAVE IT - not your battle. He is an ex. And not even your ex. Stop snooping with backup Facebook accounts. Or screenshooting stuff to his parents

He’s not worth it

Yell.her to unfriend and unfollow him then she won't be tempted to put up offensive posts that she feels the need to comment on and he won't feel the need to reply to her!

Why is she even engaging with him?

" Just remember it's not fact, it's just his stupid, twattish opinion."

thank you I do appreciate your kind message. I am really NOT a 'drama queen'.
But you see she IS Polish....

she didn't put up an offensive post, she just commented on one of his.

You have an emergency Facebook account? If people block you then it’s really intrusive to carry on spying on them.
He sounds like a total nob head, I don’t see why you need to be involved at all

OP are you more upset about:

A) Polish
B) Cunt
C) Loose

Because it seems you are more offended by her being called Polish rather then the other more offensive names

OK yes I do. I have needed it ONCE before , ONCE OK? I am really not a drama llama...:)
It all bothered me. 'Loose' 'Polish' 'Cunt' 'Retard' all of it.
It bothered me that girls get called names like that when the boys have finished with them. It bothers me that other girls put 'lol' faces when it will be them next.

the racism bothered me a lot, we/they are Irish/English/Polish.

Why on earth are you even engaging in any of this? Why are you looking at his stuff from an 'emergency' Facebook account? Is there such a thing as needing one of those?? Why is she looking at his stuff two years after they were together? Why are any of you connected by Facebook and why on earth do you have the number for his patents to send a screenshot to?! Do none of you have any boundaries? You all sound about 14.

It would piss me of OP. Massively.
But then, if there’s a history of twatishness, then the trick is to ignore them, not engage.
There was no need for the ‘it’s 2018’ comment from your DD, to her twatty ex, other than to rile him/get a reaction. So now she’s got one. I’ve also never felt he need to have a ‘spare’ a ebook account, I’m sorry but that’s very odd.
I’d block any and all contact, and rather than be pissed off, be blissfully happy she’s well shot of him.

Fucking hell, I have an emergency tenner , some emergency knickers, and some emergency paracetamol. But an emergency Facebook account? What would the emergency be -civil unrest leading to a shortage of, well whatever people use Facebook for?

Emergency snooping obv when you’re in the drama squad you have to be able to screenshot at a moments notice.

Also, he’s an adult. Why are you ‘telling’ on him?

I have needed it ONCE before , ONCE OK?

It looks like you've now needed it twice, so maybe a bit of a drama llama? Most people don't need emergency FB pages because they actively avoid drama and shit like this. I'd recommend it, it's great.

You could send the screenshots to his employer and demand their social media policy

Of course. And Phone 101. And tell his Nan.

Welcome to the age of social media. Employers and future employers run checks on Facebook and other media sites these days, shouldn’t take long for them to discover what an upstanding citizen he is.

However I believe that you are driving the issue, it’s been 2years, you can’t or won’t leave it alone. You don’t need a second Facebook account to stalk people, trying to justify it by stating I’ve used it once or twice, means you know it’s wrong. The behaviours you are exhibiting are not a good example for your daughter. Everyone involved is an adult, move on.

Not everyone works for an employer that would run FB checks. A lot of employers would not and honestly don't much care.

DDs ex called her a "shit northern bitch" on Instagram, never occurred to me to stalk him round the net looking for it, just teens being teens & DD thankfully learned from it that he was a waste of space

I'm sorry, I know it's upsetting for your DD, therefore you, but with the best will in the world you are massively over invested in your ADULT daughters love life & need to back off big time. It all sounds way too Jeremy Kyle & you just give his parents confirmation that you are as you say they perceive you.

Let your daughters get over this asshole, by blocking & ignoring, not encouraging her to challenge his crap. There's no point with some people & he sounds like one. Karma will bite his backside when he mouths off in the wrong place, which will definitely come.

Step away & forget about him