At my wits end.

[Bumbleb79]

Well my ds who is almost 6 is well behaved at school. And we have never heard anything from the school otherwise
But at home it's a totally different story. Stroopy behaviour and absolutely no sense of boundaries. Pushing buttons constantly. And some play dates are horrendous. And when we go to a restaurant constant running and climbing on chairs and tables. We have set rules , discussed actions consequences. Today was one such day and back home really exhausted and he's sulking and crying because he's facing the consequences of not going to play with his friend. And also having to hear constantly that I'm a bad mummy and he wants another better mummy. Don't know what I'm asking for but just want to hear from other parents of Any thoughts or ideas which has worked better for them.

Hi it's good news he's good at school! The right place for pushing boundaries is at home. We have some behaviour issues with ds when younger. We were advised not to negotiate, not to discuss. I.e.say sit down on your chair x. If no response. Sit down now. Then sit! (A little bit like talking to a dog tbh). Then if it doesn't work the hard bit. You have to just leave/time out etc. Make clear there's a consequence. I was really cynical about the method but it absolutely worked with our ds at that age. It was brutally hard for a few days because we were used to negotiating and being reasonable. Explains why it's good to behave etc. The key was that there was no explanation. He has to do as you say because he just does.

I'm sure other people will disagree with this method but it worked for us.

Also have you asked his teacher for advice? How he responds to discipline at school? How he interacts with other kids?

The bad mummy bit is just him knowing what buttons to press. Don't let it distract you!

I feel your pain - had the same Today with my nearly 4yo ds.

So draining. Worrying it will continue once school starts.

Hope he settles down soon

Could have wrote this about my 4 yr old ds. It's draining

Thank you everyone for your response. He's never had issues at school and his teacher always says that he is very polite in school and plays well with the other children. So it's more to do with me. I know he just says that things to push the buttons but it's just pushing too far. We have had worse when he was 4. It's supposed to get better with age. Always runs around while eating and climbing on furniture. It's just a bit crazy. Time out doesn't seem to work. He just laughs. Today 's consequences seems to have hi a nerve. He's feeling sorry and apologised and said that he will not repeat.

Aw it's not you - not in a bad way - he just feels safe to let off steam. It improves with age I promise. My nutter is 8 and nearly civilised! (Time out didn't work for us either).