Will i ever be able to see past this...

[Sheepy29]

My only sibling, my younger sister, has autism. It was very hard growing up and my parents are only still together because she went away to boarding school as a teenager and now lives in sheltered accomodation.

I love my sister to bits i really do but because of her condition i did get neglected to some extent and she also suffers with anxiety and quite often says ‘why was i born this way’ which is really upsetting. For this reason mainly, i never wanted children of my own.

My DH really wanted children and i eventually came round to the idea. When i found out i was pregnant i was so excited and had a fairly easy pregnancy. We were so excited to meet our DD who is now 9 weeks old.

Unfortunately there were complications at birth and our DD spent a week in NICU. They now say there may be problems later in life such as learning difficulties.

I can’t seem to now get past the idea that she may be autistic later in life and sometimes i feel it is affecting me bonding with her. I love her so much and i want her to have a great fulfilling life...

Will i be able to see past this?

Yes I am a foster carer if an autistic boy and his sibling and at times she probably gets pushed out when he has melt downs but sometimes this is needed to calm a situation down and then we can concentrate on her as well.

Please please don't panic your child may and may not have autism but if you are aware of this then you can pick up on it at an early age.

Come at this from a different perspective get loads of training join groups if needed or a diagnoses as a foster carer I've had to learn how to manage children with disabilities and how to help them meet their potential and whilst we still have meltdowns with the rift routine love safety and security you can do this !