Had enough of my DS! Really at the end of my tether!

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That's basically it... I am starting to seriously lose my patience.

My DS is 19 months and all he ever does is constantly and I mean constantly WHINGE!! I physically can't handle it anymore. Yesterday all he kept doing was crying.... from 6am, had a nap in the afternoon then continued to keep whinging until bed time at 9pm! I am trying my hardest. I offer him everything food wise, he refuses! I bath him, he still cries! I have him calpol in case he is teething, still kept crying... played with him, cries! You get the idea....

My DH has started to do overtime and go to his mates after work to stay away from the house because even he's had enough of it. No matter what we do, we just can't keep him happy. However when he goes nursery, they tell us that he never cries and that he just plays? So what the hell am I doing wrong then? He will be finishing nursery so it means I have to deal with him 24/7 and I'm absolutely dreading it. I really don't know anymore! I feel like an utter failure. When I take him out to play group or for something to eat just the two of us, he won't keep still or eat his dinner he shows me up and throws a huge tantrum, so big that everyone just looks on like they pity me.

Please can someone tell me what I can do? Does he need more toys?! I buy toys but he gets bored after 5 mins! I give him access to my kitchen cupboards but even that don't keep him happy! Every other child I know are so happy and content but he's the completely opposite! When I try comforting him, he just tries to bite and kick me and even booted me in the rib in anger (bloody hurt!!)

Is he in pain? my youngest was like this and it turned out he was lactose intolerant.
I wouldn't necessarily trust the nursery.
I would contact your health visitor and\or GP.

He always has dairy and milk and has never had issues with them? Can they just develop it then? I am planning on taking him to see HV next week

Is it as soon as he wakes up and all day? How does he sleep? How does your day look, what’s your routine? Does he get outside for lots of fresh air? Do you swap toys around a lot? If he is fine at nursery it sounds like maybe he is a bit bored.

As for my sitting still when you go to playgroup or out for food, he is only 19 months so I wouldn’t expect him too. Always take a few quiet things with you when you go out for food, sticker books, colours to keep him entertainedz

I agree with PP - my little boy can be similar if we don't get up and out in the fresh air early doors. He's like a Labrador puppy - he needs a good run to burn off his excess energy! If we have a good stomp around the park or we go to the nature reserve for an hour or so we have a great day, and he will come home able to sit and play independently. If we don't, I want to kill us both by 11am.

How much sleep is he getting? 9-6 plus a nap (how long?!) doesn't seem enough to me. My DD 18 months would be miserable on that. She needs 11 hours at night (7-6) and usually has 1.5-2 hours in the day. What's your routine like?

Sorry his routine is mainly going to nursery at the moment! He usually sleeps from 7pm until 7am but he keeps waking up in the night lately! Comforts him and he settles again.

And no, he doesn't wake up in pain or anything like that

He goes nursery in the afternoon so in the morning as soon as he wakes up that's when he starts whining. He has his breakfast and a drink of water SOMETIMES, but he still continues to just whine and whinge, then he goes for a nap around 11 and wakes about half 12 for nursery in the afternoon.

They do get some teeth at about 18 months - molars?
Saying that my ds was a bit like that until he was able to communicate properly with speech

I’d try taking him out after breakfast. If nursery is his only routine then may he doesn’t cry there because he is getting out? Maybe a talk with the GP will help and yes being lactose intolerant can come on anytime I believe. My little girl got a bug and now can’t handle lactose, we’ve tried getting her back on it but she starts being sick again. Hers is just temporary though we reckon. She’s tube fed so very different though.

My DS is 20 months and I could have written your post. I work part time and sorry to say but from about Fri lunchtime I'm desperate to go back to work!
He's also perfectly behaved at nursery so I think it is a bit of boredom, early terrible 2s which I remember with DD at this age but not as bad) and he's biting his fingers a lot so I think those back teeth are coming.
Can totally sympathise with you on the whinging..DS didn't have his dummy for a long time during the day but I'm ashamed to say I've started giving him it back at times as we can't bear the noise!
He isn't saying much either only about 20 single words so possibly frustrated as well??

I absolutely agree about the communication. My lb was a complete a$$#@/£ for the first 18 months of his life. He got better when he started moving and now he has started stringing sentences together he is a completely different boy. Try doing talking exercises. I really like my son now.

If he waking in the night it sounds like a bit of teething maybe? I was always told neurofen is better for teething than Calpol, we used Teetha Powder stuff too.
I would do breakfast, dressed etc then get out, either the park, a walk, soft play even a walk around the supermarket then nap and up for nursery. Getting out will distract him and make you feel better too, whinging is always worse when you are at home!

I promise you it will get better and you will look back on these days with rose tinted spectacles one day.

I remember this. A definite phase and it’s horrible. Your DH is being a shit staying away form the house though, why can’t he come home and muck in and give you a break. Change of scene might do your little one good.

Do you know of a good site for the talking exercises please elf1985?

Is he properly crying? Or just whingeing? DD2 was just a frustrated grump until she could talk properly. Now at 28 months she’s soooo much better!

I remember doing a lot of swimming in the morns at this age!

My DS who is now 7 gets v whingey just before he comes down with something.

I second teething may be bothering him.

We didn't do anything major, just encouraged him to use words as much as possible. We started with colours and numbers.
Going through books was really useful too. Mine is obsessed with tractors so we went through a farm book, "blue tractor, green tractor..." it also works as a brilliant distraction.
He was literally born fed up! Every time he hits a milestone he gets nicer.
I promise it will get easier.

My DH has started to do overtime and go to his mates after work to stay away from the house because even he's had enough of it.

This is awful. What a selfish so and so. When do you get your break?

First thing I would say is that bed time at 9pm for a not yet 2 year old seems late especially as he gets up at 6am. That is definitely not enough sleep.

Getting out and about at least once during the day will stave off boredom for him. Rotate toys so he sees new ones. Do you do playdough or painting or go out in the garden and play football with him or general physical play?