Long distance parenting

[CandyCane007]

Hi, so me and my (ex)partner have been in a long distance 5hour apart relationship for the last few years.. it's been really difficult and we decided recently that it wasn't working and we would separate.. typically, I then found out I was pregnant. We've gone through quite a few challenges, but we are both happy about this baby who is due in August.. However I don't know how long distance parenting is going to work, especially while he's in uni.. does anybody have any tips on how to make it easier/what worked for them...

I don't want to move closer as I will then be completely alone as I'll be moving away from my support system as well as then having no money, and he is where he is for uni... so either of us moving isn't an option

Bump

Definitely don’t move away from your support network. I would make that non negotiable.

Presumably he is only at university for another couple of years?

Baby due in August. He is probably already finished university already for the summer? So could get digs and a job near to you for the summer and be around for birth and first month or so. He starts back at uni in mid-late September? At which point i would expect him to be making weekends his parenting time if his job schedule is workable. When baby is a bit older and you’ve recovered from childbirth you can go and visit him.

Long term- you’ll need to have a discussion about where he plans to live and work once university is finished and how he plans to parent. The onus is on him to parent his child, not on you to sort it for him.