Smoking round my child?

[Tropicana123]

I will never allow anyone to smoke round my child. I do not smoke therefore I would never allow anyone else to put my dc around it. My dp smokes, I do not allow him to smoke at my house (we stay apart) or if he comes down smelling of smoke I won't allow him to lift my dc. He is feebly trying to give up, but anytime his parents go on holiday they just happen to bring back cigarettes and just a coincidence that it's the kind he 'used' to smoke. His father smokes, and when we visit he will smoke albeit out the back. But I can smell it as soon as he comes in, we do not visit much or for long, I don't get why he can't just hold off til we leave giving how I feel about it.

I don't know what I'm hoping to achieve by writing this, I just wish they'd respect my wishes and do not put my child around it when I don't !

I totally understand you not wanting people smoking around the child. I hate smoking and feel exactly the same.

By not to allow smokers to hold the child because they smell of smoke (including the dad) is very controlling. What harm do you think your baby will come to through the smell?

You are completely correct. Show them the literature about the invisible toxic fumes that come off their clothes for half an hour after they put the cigarette out. Encourage them to wear a jacket or something that can be removed before holding your child.

NothernSpirit exactly what thethoughtfox said about the toxins for 30 mins after they have last smoked, coming off their clothes and they also breathe them out. Call it controlling if u like, but that along with I don't want her clothes smelling of smoke, I think is entirely my choice, and a choice that is made to benefit her.

Your title says it all.....

Smoking around MY child.

Shouldn’t that be smoking around OUR child?

Had you made your mind up befirecas it looks like you’ve just copied and pasted the posters explanation?

Research demonstrates that ‘while plausible it is unproven that smoke residue damages health’. It’s not fact.

Nothernspirit says my child because it bothers ME. Let's not focus on things that isn't the issue thanks.

I've already researched it beacuse I didn't quote what previous poster said doesn't mean I hadn't seen it. I've clearly looked up about it as it really bothers me.

Yeah 'unproven', meaning neither way, whether it does or doesn't do any damage to health. I don't want to take the risk with MY child. Heard enough of u for now thanks for ur input.

It’s not bad because of he smell.. it’s bad because of the third hand smoke chemicals clinging to everything and transferring onto a child. I have the same views op, but mine mean I could not be with someone that smoked . I’m not sure how you manage

I'm the same, with a slight difference in that I was a smoker before I got pregnant and then I stopped. Now I won't allow it around DD, DP doesn't smoke at home now or when we are all together.

It's the reason we don't visit DP's DM at her home, her partner smokes inside the house and won't now smoke while we are there.

cutyourshakehole always said I couldn't be with a smoker also. It didn't bother me when we where just a couple, he never smoked around me, but it just bothers me when I know it could be affecting her.

noodleKT yeah I'm also told he smokes outside everytime. But I believe he does it in the house as the house smells of smoke masked with airfreshner when we go in, but I try to let it go as I can't prove he does and I can't tell him whether he can or can't smoke in house own house, but like u I can also choose not to take Her there.