9 yr old dd and friendships

[bellawoods2018]

Hi, fairly new to the site, been watching in the background and know how great all you mums are at offering support and advice. Hoping you can offer me some please 😊
Dd is 9 and generally confident in her academic abilities but at a complete loss in the friendship dept. I've tried to offer words of advice but I'm not so good in this area either. She is a sweet, quiet girl who tried hard (probably too hard) to please people. She seems to make friends in groups of 3 and always ends up being left out. She's so sad today, wanting to change schools and very tearful. I want to help but don't want to give bad advice (feeling a little cross at her so called friends and holding back on offering negative advice).
Please can you offer any advice that I can give to her. I've told her how lovely she is and what a great friend she has been. Lots of hugs and kisses.
Thank you

No advice as my 8yo DD is in a similar position. She always made friends with everyone and had a group where they were all close. One of the girls seems to have pushed her out the group (I think she is quite manipulative and the others will go along with her rather than DD ) but there is no issue with the others. Everyone else in the class seems to have best friends and she is left out after having been quite popular with her classmates and isn't as confident with them either.
One thing that annoys the he'll out of me though is the parents! You have a group of friend or a 3 make sure you invite all the others over. DD has had the others here for playdates/sleepovers but no reciprocation from two of the others even though they were having playdates/sleepovers with the others.
Sorry to rant and derail. Hopefully someone has some useful advice.

Thanks for responding Vino 😊
Sorry to hear that your DD is having same problems, it is heartbreaking to see them struggling. I hope things improve for your DD xx
I keep out of mummy groups at school as there have been so many fallouts between them all. This probably doesn't help my DD but it's not been a big concern before this week. We do play dates, sleepovers and I try to get her involved in after school activities but she really lacks that confidence within herself. She doesn't maintain eye contact, speaks quietly and finds it challenging to initially a conversation.
We talked lots at bedtime, danced to some fun music and she seemed more positive about tomorrow. Here's hoping 🤞