When did your baby naturally sleep all night?

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I understand babies weren’t designed to sleep all night and it’s a very western thing to want a baby to sleep all night and train as soon as possible, but my god do I want to sleep, i miss it so much!! My son is just such a bad sleeper He’s almost 11 months and his average is waking 5 to 8 times since day 1, on a bad night which happens often is anything up to 20 times. I’ve just gotten over the worst 3 weeks where he was constantly wanting to stand throughout the night and was waking over 15 times every night. But now he’s walking and he finally at last takes longer naps in day no longer have to deal with 20 min naps .. yay ....but he still wakes up around 5 to 7 times a night. What’s the deal?? At night he has a feed every 3 hours and wakes up in between for a cuddle of dummy. He has 3 meals a day breastmilk after morning nap and formula after evening nap and 2 snacks too either fruit or rice cakes then he has 6 oz at 7pm an hour after he has dinner then he has 7 oz plus breastmilk at 8pm but he sill manages to wake and make space at 11 for milk... he’s breastfed throughout the night. When did yours sleep all night naturally without any sleep training?? I’m hearing more and more of people saying there kids still wake for a feed at 2 years old. I thought once there like a year and a half they just don’t want milk at night...

Yes Ive thought that too that he’s sensitive to changes in sleep cycles. I can’t imagine him being hungry 3 hours after a meal and pudding and then 12 to 14 oz of milk. Might have to try and find some will power to do what you did. Thank you.

Okay so a lot of you have toddlers that don’t sleep. God bless you all!!! You all deserve a medal! At least now I know that this can last years and not the he should sleeping all night by 6 months that I keep on hearing. Good to know how normal this is.

I have 12 nephews and nieces all of them bottle fed and they have all been good sleepers intact my niece at 1 month is already sleeping through... I’m one of 6 and we were all breastfed and my mum said none of us slept either, I do think it is a huge factor. I’m cosleeping and I do think it’s also a reason why he wakes but the screams I get when he wakes realising he’s in the cot and then refuses to sleep I just really need to be consistent and keep to it. But I’ve always been afraid that he might just sleep through and I’ve put him in the crib and caused stress for both of us for no reason but after reading all these comments and seeing that so many have toddlers that don’t sleep I’m just going to have to put him in the cot and suffer a week or 2 of no sleep.

By western concept I meant sleep training as it’s only the west that sleep trains. Nothing patronising or racist. And I’m not categorising I know a few non wester people do sleep train and I know a huge amount of the West also don’t sleep train but it is a western practice. All countries have parenting styles and different practices. I wasn’t trying to offend by calling it western but it’s simpy what it is.

mine is getting on for 14mo and still breastfeeds throughout the night. i don't keep track i just said fuck it some time ago and we bed share. no idea how I'm going to get myself out of this one.

Watching with interest, my toddler is 15 months and still doesn’t sleep through.

My little one is 3 months and sleeps for 6 hours normally, but my mum said I slept straight away and my sister still doesn't sleep all night at 32!!

You're going to hate me. DS1 was 11 weeks old and DS2 was 8 weeks old. I bottle fed both of mine. I honestly believe it's genetic. Apparently I slept through from a week old.

Mine were around a year to 15 months when they first slept all night .this was when I stopped nightfeeding . The youngest is almost 3 and still climbs in bed with me most nights though .

‘ I honestly believe it's genetic.’

I don’t think it is because according to my DM me and my siblings were great sleepers when we were babies. My ds however is a terrible sleeper. If it is genetic I can only think he must take after DH although DH loves his sleep so I can’t imagine it. I’m hoping The second will be the opposite, surely by probability they will be!

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I honestly believe it's genetic

Well DH and his sister slept through at 6 weeks, which is why MIL constantly told me I ‘must be doing something wrong’ with my 2. I slept through at 6 months apparently, which again is much much earlier than my two.

It might not make any difference but I’d bf more on the day if you’re around. At least try to introduce one more bf during the day and see if it helps. He seems to want the calories.

Then I’d swap the fruit and rice cakes for more substantial snacks. Try raw veg and hummus, cubes of cheese with cut up grapes, apple slices spread with smooth nut butter.

Have you read Sweet Sleep too? Once he’s 12 months you can think about night Weaning. Have a google of Dr Jay Gordon’s night Weaning methods.

Hope some of this helps. One other thing that helped us was putting them in their own room. They definitely woke less for feeds.

From birth. I woke up in my hospital bed after going to sleep at 9pm and it was 7.30am... My DS was sound asleep next to me and I thought he wasn't breathing!

He went 12/14 hours from 4 weeks old. I've had 0 issues with sleep and can't relate to the famous 'sleep deprivation'. Safe to say I won't chance fate and have a DC2

I don't think my experience is that uncommon. All of my Close friend's babies were sleeping through a solid 7/8 hours by 6 weeks old.

Don't believe all the scare mongering!

Two and a half, but it was manageable by 18m iirc as he used to feed just at my bedtime and then not until morning but I can't be 100% sure, he's 9 now!

There are non crying methods to sleep train. The non western practice is to have them in with you, so not as disturbing imo.

I didn’t want to sleep train at first either but I got to a point where I felt it was not only for me but for DD as well (almost 12 months). She clearly wanted to sleep and our usual methods (being rocked to sleep) weren’t working anymore. But she didn’t know how to go to sleep on her own and she was cranky from not getting enough sleep.

So first we concentrated on her getting to fall asleep on her own in the cot. I did “gradual retreat” or what some call the disappearing chair. There’s an amazing thread in the sleep section which I followed about it. Anyway, this was a very gentle method, it didn’t involve leaving her to cry at all, I was always there to comfort her. It really did feel like teaching / helping her learn how to go to sleep by herself (rather than “training” her).

Anyway the upshot of it is that now she is used to falling asleep by herself she is much better at self settling during the night and has slept through the majority of nights for the last few weeks. The difference is incredible. I’m happier, she’s happier.

Also some PP commenting on food / milk intake...... I always thought she would demand less milk when she was ready and take moRe food as a result, but it turns out to have been the opposite: I upped food intake in the day and she now needs less milk.

Sorry for long post. I 100% understand that you still may not want to do any form of sleep training, I just thought I’d add my perspective as it can be a gentle and loving thing too.

My opinion has changed slightly through my experience. I now believe that not all babies will always learn these skills “naturally”, but will need parental help to learn.

PS this is the thread if you are interested in gradual retreat
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/1394888-What-worked-for-us-Hope-this-helps

Started naturally at 11 months.

My eldest 4 months and youngest 3 months. They were both breastfed but I discovered both thrived on routine and needed very strict feeding and napping times and I think the sleeping just followed suit as they ate so much during the day and loved their cots!

My DD was around 17 weeks. But we have a strict bedtime routine which I think helped. Bath, bottle, cuddles & bed, all around the same time everyday.

My DD was around 17 weeks. But we have a strict bedtime routine which I think helped. Bath, bottle, cuddles & bed, all around the same time everyday

So did we . Still took DD1 until 3.5 to sleep through the night!

I don't know many that learn to sleep through without a bit of sleep training tbh. Hence why I am a huge fan of sleep training and found it one of the best things I ever did when they were babies (at a similar age to yours)

My DS was BF until almost two. He slept through at 10 months when I returned to work. Think he realised quickly that I wasn’t there to feed him as I was working night shift. Every baby is different. Doubt it’s anything to do with him being “too attached” to you due to BF, it’s just how he is. My friends DD is nearly 3 and not the best sleeper and was bottle fed. Don’t think the style of feeding makes a difference.

Ds was exclusively breastfed until 6 months and then went on to formula until 12 although always has preferred food to milk. He’s been on cows milk since 12 months and still prefers his food! He’s now 15 months and he isn’t a great sleeper. Feeding I don’t think has anything to do with it. It’s depends on the child.

He's 2.5 and if we hadn't sleep trained I think he'd still have been waking up every hour tbh.

It wasn't traumatic at all, we simply cut the night feeds out once he turned one. Slept through in 3 days. Job done!