My children will be going school with different surnames 🤔

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So DS 7 has my surname because his dad wasn’t around much when he was born. DD 2 has her daddy’s, my partners name. Didn’t seem too bad but DD will be going school soon and they have two different surnames.

Feel like I will be judged. I do feel better that DS has my name, rather than his dads though.

Starting to think I should of five DD my name too so they would be the same! 🤔🤔

My dc have different surnames. Could you double barrel? Very normal in our school!!

I am sure it will be fine, there will be many others. May I ask why you gave your DD your partner's name and not yours? I am genuinely interested as this is being discussed on another thread and it was one reason DH wanted to married as if we were unmarried, I would have automatically given our kids my name.

Not unusual at all in any of the primary schools I've worked I, or in my own children's school. Honestly. I can't see it being an issue at all tbh - you've not done anything wrong! Also teachers should treat each child as an individual anyway and not judge them by their siblings iyswim.

Sofato5miles.. My eldest took my name as I had a rocky relationship with my ex. DD took my partners name as I knew he was always going to be around. It’s very much an individuals choice. I guess it is seen as traditional to take the fathers name but being married before having babies is also traditional and we all know it’s very common for babies to be born out of wedlock these days - obviously mine included! 😊

May I add, I also have my Mother’s surname!

I would love to change DSs name to my partners as he has brought him up since he was a baby but my ex (on the birth certificate) would never allow it. 🤔