Unsociable 2 year old

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Does anyone else have an unsociable child?
Please tell me I'm not the only one 😢

My daughter is 2.5 and really awkward and unsociable. There's been many occasions where she's like it but here's one example.

At the park today having a great time in the swing, she's laughing, screaming, having fun. A fellow molo approaches with her daughter and she wants to get in the swing next to us.
Straight away my kid completely changes from having fun to, 'no no get me out I don't like it'
So I make light of it to other molo and get her out and go to another part of the park, fellow molo and her kid wants to follow and the same happens again.

Whether it's at a park or play group or in the street and another little child approaches us my little girl just completely changes and either wants to go home or just latch onto me.

I try and be sociable and get out the house and go to groups or the park to get her used to other children, and for me to have some conversation with another parent but I'm just losing the will, because it's happening all the time. It's making me feel crap; I wouldn't mind making some molo friends either as I don't have many but it's just not working. And if any ask to meet up I dread what it's gonna be like and just think eventually no one will want to bother asking me because they know what she's like.

I'm pregnant with our second which I know may have an effect but she's always been like it.

She will be starting nursery when she's 3 which I hope helps.

She's always been awkward since I can remember so it's not a phase.
She is fine with me and my other half and some particular members of family, but any one else it's a no. Sometimes with family it'll take her a good hour or so to warm up and finally let loose.

Sorry for long post and thank you if you read it!
Help! 😥

My almost 3 year old is exactly the same and is starting nursery in september so I hope it will change things!

Tricky. It might help her anxiety if she (and you) are the ones doing the approaching. So you could practice (every day) ‘ok, we are going to go and sit on that bench there next to the bench with the little girl on, and then you can have your snack/lunch/drink. Start off with not going very close. And/or, you could say ‘do you want to sit on my lap or next to me when the lo comes over here?’ (Preparing her, giving her a choice/some control, but not letting her move away). Don’t get frustrated, just be calm and confident (showing her its safe). I’d also be tempted, in a safe place like soft play, to stay and talk to the other Mum, or keep on playing with the toy, letting her leave but not following saying clearly ‘you can go, I’m staying here for two minutes’ and ignoring tantrums or distress (hold/cuddle, but don’t leave until she calms down, tell her you won’t leave until she calms down). Good luck with it.

What’s a molo?

I thought it was a typo for mum by o/p uses it more than once?

My little boy was like this, even though he went to nursery, a family member used to tell me that it was normal, 2 year olds weren't designed to like eachother. We changed his nursery when he turned 3 as it just wasn't working out at his current one and he has come on absolutely loads since, not sure if it's age or the different nursery but he is much less awkward and has finally started initiating play. He's still quieter than some I see with older siblings or large friendship groups but he's just naturally come out of his shell so hopefully your DD will too

Mum of little ones?

Molo? Did you just make that up or is a thing now?

Mum of little ones?

What would be the point of that? It’s just as easy to write mum, surely?

I thought the point of dh, dd etc was abbreviation, not to put more letters in where one would do. It’s like when I see people use ddog, dneice and dpony, don't bother with the d, it’s not saving you any time or effort!

Glad I’m not the only one who doesn’t know what a molo is.