HELP ME SEE MY KIDS!

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I'm pretty sure my ex-partner has got to be breaking some laws here.
I'm Jamaican born, I moved to England for work and met my now ex-partner. Everything was good for a few years and I ended up having two kids. This person then cheated on me, moved in with the other person and kicked me out of the house leaving me homeless.

Then this person moved almost two hours a wat, I don't drive and have a steady job now but not as financially stable as per day. After all I live in a shared house. I love my kids, their other parent will let me see them but makes it incredibly difficult to do so. I'm not allowed to go to the town they live in and walk around with them, not allowed to bring them to my home, not allowed to see them at theirs either. I need help here!

What's worse is she knows I can't get a better job because i don't have much experience, it's making me depressed, I only make enough money to get by. I still send them maintenance for their clothes and such. But my ex still refuses to make things easier for me to see them. Won't even meet me half way! PLEASE HELP!

Thank you for replying. As far as I know it's just my ex, I don't want to get my kids involved with social services with the fear of what may happen to them afterwards. I don't want them in care. I have a son who is 8 and a daughter who is nearly 9 if that helps.

You need an official contact order. Hoping someone come along who knows more about this. As far as I'm aware it has nothing to do with social services.
Why are you worried about their involvement though?

You need to apply to the court for a child arrangement order.

You need to see a lawyer I'm afraid or at the very least find a good book about representing yourself in court. Normally a minimum would be every other weekend plus one night per week. 50/50 is pretty much the starting point but you'd need to be able to prove that you can house them etc.

Were you married?

What is your legal status? I'm not in the UK so don't know much about that side of things.

I don't want social services involved because of what I've seen on TV to be honest. I feel like because I'm Jamaican and the fact that I don't live in my own house due to the lack of my education and experience they'll favour my ex with being British.

Unfortunately we were never married otherwise it would be a lot easier

TV is not real.
You're their dad. It makes no difference at all if you're Jamaican or even from the moon! Seek legal advice.

nobody is suggesting social services; you need to see a lawyer not a social worker

go to citizen's advice bureau as a starting point

Citizens advice can refer you for some free legal advice. I think it's about half an hour. It will give you good grounds to think about how to proceed. Wrote down everything you need to ask as it will be time limited.

It's worth going as people have said as you may qualify for legal aid or assistance.

Are you in the birth certificates as if so I believe you have parental responsibility.

First things first though go to citizens advice and see what they have to say.
Good luck.

You need to go to court and get a contact order.

You dinner need a solicitor or barrister - you can represent yourself in court (and judges are very understanding).

It will cost you £215

The mother can not dictate what you do, where you go and who you see when you are with the children (just like you can’t tell her). This will be viewed as extremely controlling by the courts. I woukd keep a record of all correspondence.

As the children’s father you woukd likely be given every other weekend, half of the school holidays and alternative Christmas.

As the mother is the one who moved away I woukd be asking for her to do at least half of the drop offs and pick ups.

Good luck, I know it seems daunting but the children have a right to see you and by taking this to court you are facilitating that right.

The sooner you go to court and stop her silliness the better.

I meant you don’t need a solicitor

Thank you for all your comments I will be calling a few Mediators tomorrow morning and will go from there.