would you let two 15yr olds,a boy and girl have a sleepover if they were only friends?

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My friend let her dd have a friend stay overnight.They slept in the same roon,seperate neds.Her dd insists they are only friends and was shocked her mum thought otherwise.I suggested her dd may be being very clever, but really don't know.
They do seem to have a lot of platonic relationships with the opposite sex ,much more than we ever did.
Dh said every 15 yr old boy would want to shag and he would only allow it if the boy was gay.

your Dh is right according to my DH.

your dh is right.

hmmm yes thought so

Thinking back to when I was 15

Your DH is right

I had platonic male friends at 15 and I would have no problem trusting my daughter to share a room with a male friend. It is not after all what is on HIS mind that matters, it is what is on HERS.

rosa-I think that's how my friend saw it too

if it was friedn that i had known for some time it ouldnt be a problem. i would ensure the door was left ajar at all times though...just in case lol

I think my 15 year old stepdaughter would make more sensible choices about who to sleep with than I did at 25!

Mamazon - when I took DH to stay with my parents for the first time he slept downstairs on the sofa and they left their bedroom door open - I was 30 years old!!!

Yes, I would. I had lots of male friends as a teenager. Nothing sexual has ever happened between us.

I'm not sure if it's still the case, but there used to be several 15 yrs old boy who, even if they had really liked a good old shag, could view a girl not just as someone to shag. and viceversa.

yes I agree franca,well let's hope that's the case.Even if the boy lay there all night dreaming of a shag,he may very well be too shy to do anyhting about it.

My sister let my 16 yo nieces' boy friend sleep over, on the condition that they didn't sleep together. She then went out over night, and totally belives the baoyfriend slept all night on the sofa. And to be honest, so do I.

Okay, they may just be friends. But in that case I wouldn't have expected them to be in the same room. Just from a 'decorum' point of view, as they are of the opposite sex I would have used seperate rooms/expected the boy to sleep on the sofa.

But then I always hated sharing a bedroom anyway, until DH came along, even with girl friends on holiday.

Yep - my DH says the same - only one thing on a boy's mind. However my dd (13) has loads of male friends - she calls one of them gay even though the poor lad isn't - hasn't asked for any to stay over ...yet but at least we have a spare room!

So am I right in assuming that the majority of you would NOT let them sleep in the same room?

Not really sure whether I would let her or not, I suppose it depends on the child really. But to be perfectly honest, I used to sleep over my bf's house all the time when I was 15 and when we went to bed (same bed) we actually just went to sleep. Whenever we had sex it was during the day, never when we had gone to bed.

i would, but not in the same room i don't think.

I wouldn't let them sleep in the same room, having said that if they did want to have sex they will do it anyway regardless whether you allow same room or not

nope - hubby would go mental!

Yes Hayes they will, but if you allow them to sleep in the same room you are kind of approving of them having sex, whereas if you insist they sleep seperately you make your opinion clear.

Not in the same room. I had mostly male friends when I was that age but I also know that as a good friend it may have been a bit of a laugh and chance to experiment a bit. As girls at sleepovers we were very open with what we discussed and wandring around in undies or less and can see how with a boy and girl together even if they haven't been romantic before could get a bit I will show you mine if you show me yours.

hmmmm

not sure if i would.... but i know... that one of my best friends is male...we have known each otehr since we were 2, and lived oppsoute each otehr a gre up together...

we ahve NEVER been anything more than friends...

we have slept in the same room loads of times... EVEN in the same bed (have slept both in a single bed and a double bed... and NOTHING happens at all... we just sleep)

i dont recall sleeping all night in the same bed aged 15 (in fact i know we didnt) cause we lived opposite so one of us would go home... but at that age we would often go to each other house watch TV and fall asleep on the sofa bed and then wake up and go properly to sleep in our real beds about 1 or 2 am! (incidently our aprenst were friedns and would often go out together,a nd em and my friend, (and our siblings) would hang out together while our parenst were on a night out!

So it could be innocent me and my friend certainly were!

At the moment he lives in a 1 bed flat with a super king size bed... he has a sofa bed as well, but its easier for us both if i sleep in his bed so when i go upthats what we do. I have my hosue with 2 spare bedrooms, so when he's here he sleeps in a seperate room