My name or his?

[mother2b]

Im having a baby but i dont want my baby to have a differant surname to me, i know that me and my partner will get married one day but i dont know when this will be, what would be the best thing to do about this? how easy is it to change childs surname after it has been registered?
am i being selfish?

My children have my name. The only people it bothers are my ILs.

DP and I weren't together when DS1 was born so he had my name. Since we got together and had 3 more lo's, they all have my name too.

TBH even if we did get married it wouldn't change - although he could change his if he wanted.

People might think you were cousins or something

People are more likely to assume that you're already married, I think. Hardly anyone apart from family knew that DH's aunt and uncle weren't married (not that they made a secret of it or anything, just that when a couple are living together and have a child and all share the same surname then people they meet don't tend to ask "So are you married, then?", and it doesn't come up much in casual conversation)

i looked at that site and when you change your name you can also change your prefix, is this wrong? could i just change it to mrs until we get married? (and then of course i will be a proper mrs)would this be too pretentious?

you are not being selfish at all, it makes no sense to me AT ALL for a child not to share its mother's surname. I am in the same position although have DD from previous relationship so definately wanted both of my girls to have the same name, DP was OK with this MIL still doesnt get it but she is old fashioned i guess. When you register the baby as long as your partner goes with you he can sign for parental responsibility and i'm sure its just a form or something if you want to change when you march him down the isle. Best wishes for the Baby x

You can change your prefix to whatever you want, as long as you're not changing it for fraudulent purposes...

I don't have the same name as DH, but DD does. It's very obvious that she's mine (or should that be that I'm hers ), and I wanted it to be obvious that DH wasn't the stepdad. Mind you, as it turns out she's all over him like a cheap suit at only 7 months, so not really a concern any more .
If you'll take DPs name when you marry then it saves having to change DCs names too. Although I'm (rather obviously) very relaxed about the whole naming business. ILs are still waiting for me to change my name, 4 years married and counting!