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DD friendship gone bad what can I do ?

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thedayismine · 09/05/2018 20:17

DDy2 formed a close friendship with a boy in her class when she joined the school at the start of year 1.
We were happy she had found someone she gelled with as it's a small school and she needed the confidence of knowing she had 'her' friend she could always rely on.
We are in a small ish community so lots of meet ups as a family after school etc. I noticed that their play was quite manic compared to DDs previous school friends but thought that was partly due to more rough and tumble as both of them also have younger brothers. I felt a bit on edge though without dwelling on why.
Then quite early on this school year they began to fall out often - she just didn't seem to enjoy playing with him really.
At first I wasn't too worried as it seemed she was spreading her wings a little - playing with some of the girls who were skipping etc at play times, there is one little girl she is pretty good friends with too.
But then it went downhill with lots of quite nasty name calling and her 'friend ' roping other boys into this. DD told her class teacher and it was discussed with his parents and he was told to keep away from DD until he could be nice to her.
Since then we have tried to remain low key and not pass too much comment but we are receiving daily comments from DD that he tells her she is dumb / wrong all the time - and I have seen and heard this at first hand.
Meanwhile I have mentioned this to his Mum - she tells me he also complains about DD a lot.
I don't want to ramble on and on - but thanks if anyone is still reading and does anyone have any thoughts on what I should be doing ?
I worry that her trust in her friend has been shattered and that his comments are chipping away at her - but I know I am only hearing part of the story ..
I am new to all this as she is DC1 and feel totally out of my depth !

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thedayismine · 09/05/2018 21:11

Anyone ?

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Mannix · 09/05/2018 21:19

I wouldn’t talk to his mum again, it’s usually better to talk to the teacher and let her deal with this. Tell her your DD is upset and ask her to keep an eye on them. A good year 2 teacher will have seen this sort of thing before and will know how to deal with it. If you feel it’s still happening, talk to the teacher again and then approach the Head.

thedayismine · 09/05/2018 22:21

Mannix I appreciate the reply . Been dwelling on it far too much. I think you are right and if our school was bigger that would have been my instinct. Felt like the mum would feel been hurt to know I had done that and it's been pretty awkward since the original school intervention. Will approach the teacher I think.

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